STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

fashionista L · Coach

I am so annoyed!

luckylily · Gucci

Wow - that is really awful.

I think name calling and telling you to FU is totally inappropriate regardless of the circumstances. I wouldn't stand for that at all if I were you. You need to insist that he show you a lot more respect.

Andrea Julia · Coach

Wow! That is horrible. Is he always like that or does he have some sort of beef with the person or venue? Is the girl so slutty that, by osmosis, she makes innocent girlfriends cheat on their boyfriends? Has some guy tried to pick you up at that place before? He seems really controlling. There is no reason for you not to hang out with your friends just because you are with him. I don't think that being in a relationship precludes you from having friends (or even going out to clubs). I think you and him need to have a long talk. His reaction was a little scary. Is it rare for you to go out with friends? If so, maybe you should do it more so he will get used to it and realize he can trust you. You SHOULD go to a club tonight, not just to spite him, but because it is fun and just because you go to a club doesn't mean you have to hook up with anyone or dance with anyone other than your girlfriends.

I probably wouldn't even respond to his text. I wouldn't talk to him until he got home. Make him worry about it. Maybe you will even get an apology without even having to talk to him.

-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 00:58, 2005-02-20

jah · Dooney & Bourke

I don't mean to be really harsh, but IMO that is completely unacceptable and abusive. Any type of name-calling that degrades one to that level is a complete dealbreaker...

Does he do this often?

fashionista L · Coach

No he doesn't do that often, I think his problem with me going is because I have called the place a meatmarket before. I don't go out with friends often, I never go dancing (maybe twice a year) and he is a lil insecure that he's not in town. I don't think this is any excuse for his behavior though. I do think I need to go out with friends more often, we always go out with his friends and I never get to see mine. I still have not talked to him, so hopefully there won't be some rediculous blowout on Monday!

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Wow, that is so harsh - I don't know what I would do with a message like that. I don't know if you have a little sister, but sometimes it puts things into perspective to think "what would I do to a guy who treated my baby sister like this..." for me becase I am such a big sister. Sometimes it's harder to stand up for yourself than it is to stand up for someone you care about. But if you wouldn't allow someone you care about to put up with something, it doesn't make sense to put up with it yourself.

blubirde · Chanel

I'm with jah. If someone called me those things, I'd have a few choice words for them and then I'd be done with them. You shouldn't let him talk to you like that. Those are his issues, not yours. Don't put up with it.