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Andrea Julia · Coach

Dating etiquette question

Hermes

you're a free agent. and if you want to keep him around to figure out if you're sold on him or not, I wouldn't go out of my way to share it with him. if by some strange chance you run into him during your date with the other guy, just introduce them as you would any other friends - because that's really all either of them are at this point, right?

-- Edited by detroit at 19:34, 2005-02-13

Joina · Kenneth Cole

I agree with Detroit.

blubirde · Chanel

Man, AndreaJulia, you are singing my song. I tend to always date multiple men at the same time. And when I date one who I know is interested in more (bf/gf type thing), I tend to obsess over how to deal with the situation. Obsess, who me?

But this is the conclusion I've come to: unless someone actually utters the words, assumptions are not to be made. I may think he wants exclusivity and he may want it, but until he actually spits out the words, I'm a free agent. Basically, if a guy doesn't want me to go out with other guys, he better damn well say it. In my case, he'd be out of luck, but it is essential to only work with the facts in any kind relationship. I can't read minds and I shouldn't be expected to. If he wants it, he has to say it and until then, I'm all mine.