Oh Collette, I am so sorry you have to go through this. Stay strong--and remember, us Chicago girls are so close, if you ever need to talk or get together for a girl's night.
I'm really sorry. I was divorced and it is traumatic. You do come out on the other side, though. I've been amazed by how many things are so much better than I ever thought possible when I was married. Good luck. It's hard, but things do get better. Sending good thoughts sweetie.