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Collette · Chanel

Need support/Getting Separated

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

Oh Collette I am so sorry. The only advice I have is to surround yourself with people who love and support you. Right now your friends and family can and will be there in the ways you need, if you need to talk about it or get you mind off of it, hopefully they can be there for you either way. Don't forget, you have your ST girls here anytime you need to talk, and your Chicago ST girls are close by if you want to get together!!! Let us know whatever you need!

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

Oh wow Collette, I am so sorry to hear this. I have never been through something like this so all I can say is that I know you are a very strong person and you will get through this. Let me know if you need to talk.

FashionPrincess · Hermes

((Big hugs!!!)) I'm so sorry! Just remember what a fabulous person you are and all that you have to offer and no matter what the outcome that things will work out for the best. It's a new day and every day after today is a new day. Hang in there and know that we are here for you!!!

AllieGurl · Marc Jacobs

I am so sorry to hear this. I would suggest therapy- either for yourself, you and your H, or both. I am sure you will be going through a very emotional time and it might help to talk to someone as you work through those feelings and the changes that come with it.

I also wanted to add - its ok to be upset, dont feel that you need to be "brave" all the time.

rosie_the_riveter · Gucci

I'm so sorry, Collette. It's ok to be scared, but do know that you will make it through. We're always here to listen if you need to talk. Big hugs to you sweetie.

Teresa · Kate Spade

AllieGurl wrote:

I am so sorry to hear this. I would suggest therapy- either for yourself, you and your H, or both. I am sure you will be going through a very emotional time and it might help to talk to someone as you work through those feelings and the changes that come with it.

I also wanted to add - its ok to be upset, dont feel that you need to be "brave" all the time.

absolutely.

member · Hermes

Awww, Collette I'm so, so sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say other than I'm sorry, and I'm here for you if you need anything at all.

rlutz · Chanel

I am so sorry to hear about this...I went through a divorce about 7 years ago and I understand how hard it is...you definitely should surround yourself with people whi will support you and help you cope.
PM me if you want to talk...

Hermes

I am really sorry to hear this, Collette. Be strong, and know whatever the outcome, you will be a happier person. I'm always here for you if you want to talk.

cleococo · Nine West

Hello,

I mostly lurk here, but I wanted to come out of the shadows to offer my support. I am going through something similar right now and I know how you feel. Take care of yourself and I agree couselling is a good idea. My husband and I are both going through individual therapy. My husband has issues and I am beginning to learn this has nothing to do with me. Please remember that. You are a strong and worthy person. Roll with your emotions. If you want to cry, do it. If you are angry, feel it. It will help. And don't forget to fight for yourself and your marriage if you want it.

I know I am a stranger, but I do understand your pain. It does get better. Feel free to contact me if you need to talk.

Laura

pollyjean23 · Marc Jacobs

I'm sorry, Collette. Let me reiterate the fact that we're here for you, if only virtually.

Suasoria · Chanel

(((Hugs)))

Try not to judge yourself or what you're feeling...you're entitled to feel however you feel. (And a little man-bashing with some girlfriends never hurts.)

You are in my thoughts.

ico · Dooney & Bourke

Oh...
I am so sorry this is happening to you. I went through something similar last april, and the thing that made me feel better was having my friends close to me, as other girls suggested.
Also, don't be too hard on yourself. And therapy is a good idea if you want to do it
(((hugs)))

Kelly · Hermes

Collette, I'm so sorry. I don't have any advice because I've never been there, but I am thinking of you. Even just talking to you on ST I've grown to know you as a very strong woman who can take what life throws at her. Take care of yourself.

Vanessa · Kate Spade

Collette, so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I am here for you if you need anything. We all care about you here at ST and I speak for the Chicago girls in saying we would be more than happy to get together if you need a girl's night, etc.

You are strong, beautiful and independent - no matter what happens, I have no doubt you will come out even brighter and stronger.
Big Hugs.

Alegria · Kate Spade

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please remember that there is no exact amount of time in which you are supposed to feel better. After 2 years, I still feel a lot of the pain. Please let me know if you need anything. I'm here for you.

wicked · Coach

I'm so sorry. I was divorced 2 yrs ago and I just went through it thinking that as that door closed many, MANY new doors would open and they have. All the best to you!

Cricket · Gucci

I'm so sorry Collette. My heart goes out to you right now. Let us here help you if we can.

Domino13 · Nine West

I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree totally with the rest of the women on this site that you are strong and will come through this even stronger. Now for some more pragmatic advice. Please protect yourself financially. Separations are tricky and certain moves now can potentially put you at a disadvantage later on if there is to be a true divorce. Seek counsel now, to protect yourself. Sounds harsh, but it could significantly impact your security.