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joy0302 · Kate Spade

Would you be upset if

Hermes

unless it was a life-altering situation, that's a pretty crappy move to stick your friends with costs you led them to believe you'd pay. very inconsiderate and flakey, in my opinion.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

unless she has a super god reason (did someone just die? did she just lose her job?) then yeah, I'd be pretty pissed. That's extremely rude.

joy0302 · Kate Spade

She decided to get lipo with one of her friends. Which that is cool, except for she already had a consultation, thought about it and then scheduled it before she bothered to tell me she was backing out. Then I was even more upset when I called to try to change my reservation to a smaller room and was told that I had passed the date that I could change it!

AllieGurl · Marc Jacobs

Her reason IMO is not justified at all. She made a commitment to you, and she is choosing not to honor it.

I would ask for her to please pay her portion of the charges since the time has passed for you to be able to alter or cancel the reservation.

jettie · Kate Spade

Definitely not cool.

calico · Kenneth Cole

AllieGurl wrote:

Her reason IMO is not justified at all. She made a commitment to you, and she is choosing not to honor it.

I would ask for her to please pay her portion of the charges since the time has passed for you to be able to alter or cancel the reservation.

ITA. I would definitely expect her to pay her half of the accomodations since she is leaving you high and dry. If she would rather get lipo, that's her deal, but she should still have to pay for what she committed to. If she was staying in her own room and called the hotel to cancel it, they would still charge her, so you shouldn't be expected to foot her bill.

Kelly · Hermes

If she said she'd come and now won't, then she's being really shitty.

But you said that you and your friends were waiting on her to make the reservations. Why were you waiting? Is it because she never actually promised to go? If she was just waffling back and forth until she finally made a decision 2 weeks before the trip, then I think it's kind of everyone's fault for being willing to wait that long for someone they knew might not go.

joy0302 · Kate Spade

I am glad that I am not overreacting! Thanks everyone for the input and I do agree she should not expect her money back for the room.

ttara-she did promise to go and she had actually already given me the money for the room,(I had put it on my debit card awhile back). Then when she changed her mind she wanted her money back and said I could just change it, which was wrong because at that point it was too late. We were just waiting on her for things like show tickets and making plans for tours, etc. Everytime I asked her if she wanted to come over so we could plan things, she would say yes and then say at the last minute that she had something come up. I had asked her several times though and she had assured me she was going. I just don't see the point in waiting so late to tell someone the truth.

-- Edited by joy0302 at 16:31, 2008-06-08

Kelly · Hermes

oh, I was just unsure what it meant when you said you were waiting for her. if she did promise to go and now isn't, then yes I'd be upset!

joy0302 · Kate Spade

Sorry ttara! I worded it very confusing in my state of anger! LOL! smile

Kitty · Hermes

I would be really angry. If I were the friend backing out, the very least I would do would be to offer to pay for my share of the room.

wetbandit42 · Marc Jacobs

That's so unbelievably rude! I hate flaky people. She should definitely pay you for her share of the room.

Hermione · Kate Spade

well since she's already given you her share for the room, i would just tell her that you're sorry, you tried to change the room and you couldn't, so you can't give her the money back.

blubirde · Chanel

Ha! So the joke's on her for already giving you the money. Just tell her you spent her money on her portion of the hotel room and if she wants it back, she'll have to take it up with the hotel. You don't technically have her money, the hotel does since you already both paid. Too bad for her. That's karma, baby. That's what she gets for backing out. I don't know her but I feel safe in saying that she sucks.

XtinaStyles · Marc Jacobs

blubirde wrote:
I don't know her but I feel safe in saying that she sucks.

Hehehee. I agree that it was def wrong. Seems like a very selfish decision. Its not like she backed out due to family death or she got laid off.... Also, the fact that you gave her several chances to back out and she never fessed up, I'd be mad!

joy0302 · Kate Spade

Thanks guys for helping me to feel justified in my annoyance! I haven't heard from her since she backed out, but when I do I am going to let her know that I was not able to change the reservation and go from there.