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BargainQueen


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I've never been to a VIP party at a club before so excuse me if I sound completely dorky.

So a bunch of close friends and family of my cousin decided to pitch in and reserve a VIP room at a club this Friday for her birthday.  It was expensive and figured the out of pocket cost wouldn't be that bad once we got eveyone together. 

I asked my friends (they havent met my cousin) if they were ok with helping out, since they didn't know her, they weren't obligated.  One of them said she was fine with it, afterall, the entrance to the club was more expensive ($20) if she decided to enter as a non-VIP.  Well the other girl called my friend and told her its not common to pay anything when entering via VIP.  So then they both express that since they don't know my cousin they don't feel comfortable paying anything to get in (even though the VIP entrance fee at this club is $10).

So it turns out the club promoter found out my cousin is a local entertainment reporter and is thrilled of the possible publicity his club will get with her attendance and agrees to let everyone on the list FREE, no limit.  The limit is usually up to 25 VIP per party.  So now that my friends find out about this, they're both calling me and asking me to add all of their friends on the list because, "although they are not 100% sure they will come, but at least if they do they will take advantage of the FREE entrance."

Rude right? They complained about paying the required $10 VIP fee, but when my cousin said forget it, they were fine and as soon as they found out eveyone was getting in free, they want to bring their entire entourage with them.  I want to say no, but I cant think of how to tell them.  My coworkers suggested telling them that their friends would have to pay their entrance to scare them off.



-- Edited by BargainQueen at 19:07, 2008-05-14

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Suasoria


Chanel

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Wait - if these people don't know your cousin, why are they invited?

Yeah, mega-rude. It seems under the circumstances, with this party turning into a publicity event, you'd want to keep the guest list to only people whose behavior and support you can count on. You don't need the sketchy friends of friends of friends embarrassing your cousin on an important night for her career, or risk abusing the generosity of the promoter.

Or just tell them that your cousin has too many people on her guest list to be able to accommodate extras.

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Elle


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Or you could tell them they could come and then leave them off the VIP list at the door ..... devilish.gif.  Only if you don't want to be friends with those girls anymore though!

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Chanel

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That's just seriously rude IMO, first off expecting to come and not pay is just ridiculous, every club has a cover charge. And yeah if you're VIP ( for real and not just for a party) you get in free but in this situation you were renting a room/space. I'd just tell them she already has 25 people of her friends for the free entry but they're still welcome if they're willing to pay the cover. Then buy them freeloader T shirts to wear.

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I wish I had seen this earlier, cuz, by now that was last night! 
What i would have done is said that we'd like to keep the group small as you wanted a party with mainly friends and family of your cousin and maybe a few others, and let those girls come and bring maybe another friend each.
AFTER that though, I would have invited them out to coffee and let them know that you don't really understand their behavior, being unwilling to chip in just $10 (though of course it wasn't necessary because they don't know your cousin) when one of them was before, but THEN wanting to invite everyone they know once they found out it was free.  Seems a bit like you're the little red hen and no one comes around until your bread is made ....
Anyway, let us know what happened

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That is just the saddest thing I've heard in a while...

We got a limo and did the whole VIP club thing this time last year and a very drunk on the fringe acquaintance weazled her way into our group via my softy husband.  She then had my daughter babysit.  This is where it gets good.

She drank way too much, tried to get frisky with one of my very straight laced female friends on the dance floor, and a fist fight with the bathroom attendant.  Then since we'd covered the limo my husband asked if everyone would chip in to take care of the tip...if they felt compelled.  She forked over $30.  THEN told my daughter she was out of cash and would run down the money to compensate her the next day.  Three awkward months later, no babysitting money. 

COLETTE:  Where did you say you were getting those freeloader tshirts printed?  Tell you what order me one, I'll reimburse you for it.  The checks in the mail *wink, wink*

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