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Dooney & Bourke

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One of my friends needed something to wear to her company's holiday party, so a couple of weeks ago I was shopping and ended up buying 3 or 4 outfits for her to try.  One of the items was a really cute cami -- i picked it up for her in light blue and got myself one in black .  (i would post a pic but it's from h+m and i don't think their pics will post.)


She loved everything i picked out and kept most of it, but returned the blue cami and bought a black one for herself.  Now, I don't have a problem with her buying something i already have, BUT here's the problem:


the other day she announced that she plans on wearing the shirt on new year's eve.  i haven't decided what i'm wearing yet, but that top was definately in the running.  i kind of feel like, since i had it first and she bought it knowing that i had the same one, i should get priority in this situation.  (we are going to be at the same party NYE)


i didn't say anything to her when she talked about what she was wearing b/c she just said, "i'm going to do the all black outfit for nye."  and it didn't register until now that what she was talking about was MY CUTE TOP.


am i justified in feeling this way?  what should i say to her?  am i being bratty?  (since now i am just totally convinced that i must wear that top.)



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Hermes

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I know exactly how you feel!  While you did have this shirt first and you are the one that technically bought it for her (or at least made her aware of it), it's fair game.  If you want to be really sneaky, you could find out exactly what she's wearing with the cami, and then come up with something 1000 times better and wear it with your cami !  Or just pull a little reverse psychology on her (Oh, you're wearing the black cami?  Well, I was going to wear that, but that's okay.  No, I guess I'll just have to find something else.  Oh, you didn't really want to wear it anyway?  Oh, you're so sweet!"

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Kate Spade

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She probably doesn't even realize you were planning on wearing it, too. If I was you I would just tell her I was also wearing mine (because yeah, you had it first) and let her make the decision to show up in the same top as you or choose something else.


That could be just me, I've never really understood why it's the apocalypse (in general, not talking about you) if someone wears the same thing as me.



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Dooney & Bourke

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It really doesn't seem like huge deal.  Think about this way, she likes the shirt so much that she's wearing it for a special occasion.  I'd be flattered, and I'm sure you have many other beautiful outfits in your closet. 

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