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Kate Spade

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I don't even know where to start with this. DH and I found out we were going to have a baby in January. I have been so excited and all of my family and friends know and everything has been going fine, or so I thought. DH and I went for my 2nd check up yesterday, at 11 weeks. We were excited because we thought we were going to be able to hear the baby's heartbeat. Well, the doctor used the little machine to see if he could hear it, but he couldn't and said not to worry because sometimes you can't hear it until 12 weeks and I wasn't quite there. He said since they had a tech in that day I could to an ultrasound if I wanted and I said sure. Well, I sarted getting worried when the tech was asking me odd questions, like questioning when my last period was and saying are you sure, are you normally regular? She then had me to an internal ultrasound and then sent me back to the doctor. He came in and was like "did she talk to you about this" I said no and then the news just came spilling out of him and I felt like I was having an out of body experience, like it wasn't me he was talking to, I was just nodding my head. He said that there was no heartbeat and that the ultrasound showed that the baby was only 6.5 weeks along, which means it had been gone for some time and my body did not miscarry it. The reason for that is because for some reason it did not attach well to my uterus. I have to wait a week and go in for a D&C to remove the baby and all of the matter. When he stepped out of the room DH and I lost it. After crying for a while we left and went to see his parents and then mine. It was a horrible day, but comforting to be around family and my husband.

The only solace that I have from this is that we conceived very quickly and weren't even trying very hard at the time so the doctor is very confident about us not having any problems conceiveing again. He also said, which I have read in tons of books, is that if your body senses that the baby is drastically unhealthy that your body's natural reaction is to reject it. Also, since having this happen we have heard about many women we know, friends and family, who have had the same thing happen, sometimes more then once, and have gone on to have many children.

Right now we are just trying to stay positive, but it's hard. I feel like I should be in mourning or something, I am just sad and angry and scared and worried. I feel like the best thing is to just forget it and put it behind me but then I feel like that's unfair to my unborn child, like how can I just forget my child? I know that this has happened to a few of you and I would love any advice or success stories, it's what's keeping me going right now. I was planning on announcing my pregnancy on the site when we got back yesterday, but never thought I'd be posting this news instead.

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oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. (((hugs))))

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cry  I'm so sorry. 

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I'm so sorry Luv2Shop sniff.gif.  That's such a hard blow to think you're so far along and almost out of the woods, and then to be whipped backwards.  Try not to 'should' yourself too much - give yourself some time and room to feel what you feel.

Hope and rest, for now.

(And call the doctor right away if you start bleeding and/or cramping before your appointment, okay?  They're there to help you for a reason.)

Much love and a PM are on their way to you petting.gif.

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I'm so sorry. cry

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Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. Dont' beat yourself up to much about what you should be doing or feeling or thinking - this is a difficult situation and your heart will tell you what you need to do to help yourself. You and your DH are in my thoughts.

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I am so sorry to hear that. I started tearing up at your post.

If it makes you feel better, this is not uncommon. It happens to lots of families, so you're certainly not alone. And the good news is like you said--you had a pretty easy time conceiving and so I'm sure that the second time will be much easier for you.

In the meantime, my heart goes out to you and you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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I have no advice, but just wanted to say I am so sorry for you and your husband.

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I'm so sorry.

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I'm so so sorry sweetie, my heart goes out to you and your husband right now.

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I am so sorry honey! I know all too well what you are feeling... but as I am typing this I am watching my precious, healthy, 9 month baby boy crawl around and play, so there is hope. And I think it is very important to go thru the mourning process, but just remember and cling to the hope. If you need anyone to talk to or have any questions please feel free to pm me. Just take care of yourself and get some rest! (((Big hugs)))

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I'm so sorry to hear that you are having to go through this. Although I've neve been in your position I am here if you need to talk. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.

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i'm so sorry.

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aww - I'm so sorry. what a horrible experience to go through.

not to diminish what you have gone through, but you're right, it's not uncommon to miscarry in your first couple of pregnancies.  stay positive, and I for one will be thinking positive thoughts for you.

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I'm so sorry. I'm also sending positive thoughts and energy your way. Sounds like you have a lot of love and support from your family.

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I'm really sorry.

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Oh, sweetheart, ((hugs))-o-rama. I'm so sorry. And you ARE in mourning, so you are entitled to feel however you feel. Take good care of yourself!


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I am very sorry, Luv2shop.  My thoughts are with your husband and you. 

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Chanel

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i am so sorry to hear this.

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I am incredibly sad for your loss. And no matter what anybody tells you or says, this is a loss of a child.

This is probably not going to help you at all in your grieving process. But this does happen (the early early pregnancy loss) to an incredible number of women. Sometimes, women don't even know that they're pregnant before thier body decides that something just wasn't right. And that's what happened here. I see very very few women who come in to the doc's office who haven't had some sort of pregnancy loss. You are definitely not alone.

But it's excellent that you concieved so fast and so easily. That really is hopeful for the next time.

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