STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

Metric - FWIW, I don't think you're a bad person. I have a friend in a similar situation and it's all I can do to keep myself from shaking her every time she brings it up. I know my friend thinks she's happy with this new guy, but it all just went so quickly. She wasn't divorced more than a couple weeks before she was engaged the new "love of her life." I think she's just lonely (and scared to be lonely) and as soon as she found someone else to love, she got desperate and jumped on the chance to "nail him down." She has a daughter to think about, and I know that this is going way too fast for that kid. Whenever she talks about the wedding, I secretly hope to myself that she'll get some sense knocked into her before it's too late. I hope that doesn't make me a bad person - it just makes me an objective observer who loves my friend and wants the best for her.

joy0302 wrote:

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sfclinevandy wrote:

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Fiance's brother and sister in law gave us the tackiest, weirdest Christmas present. Well... they gave me 2 cute necklaces but they give him this cheesy framed, picture of the White House with spaces for a collection of presidential dollars. Neither of us collect coins and it was such a random, pricey gift considering they have a lot of debt and a baby on the way. It's just annoying they thought we would want this and they spent so much... I've seen it online for $180. And I know its not a regift because they got one for his dad too. Fiance feels guilty and thinks we should hang it up but over my dead body.

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OMG! That is very interesting! My FIL who is now not a part of our lives spent $200 once on us a Dallas Cowboy stained glass lamp. I LOATHE football and could not understand what he thought we were going to do with that thing! We ended up selling it later on, thankfully!

My confession is I have a friend who in school was like a sister to me and now I don't really feel like I can be there for her. She began dating the guy whom she is now married to when we were 16. He was a druggie then and I, along with her entire family, constantly tried to talk some sense into her that he was bad news. Well after a couple of years of them dating we didn't talk much because she began using drugs also. When I realized I couldn't help her and that I was just becoming depressed I got out of the situation. A few years later she wrote me and my mom a long letter apologizing for everything she had done, and it was many things, while she was on drugs,(she has been off for years now). I figured since she was off he was also. Unfortunately, though, he had never quit and has since gotten VERY bad off to the point the police are now involved. She emails me and I had her over for the holidays, but I am too afraid to get close to all of the problems again. I feel sorry for everything she is going through, but part of me is a little pissed at her for not listening to everyone in the very start of thier relationship. I am also afraid that he will find out where I live and follow her here one day and start some trouble. I am a bad friend.

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You're so not a bad friend. If a situation is bad news, you stay away from it, pure and simple. That doesn't make you bad (especially since you haven't been close for awhile), it makes you smart. Don't feel guilty. Feel bad for her but don't feel guilty for not involving yourself in her life. It's her bed to lie in.

sorry collegegirl, but i lol'd at the tonsil story!

my confession is that my husband and i have a mean ongoing joke about the neighbors across the street. when their house caught on fire, i said it was their meth lab. when she came over to use the phone/and or ask for aspirin, my husband said she was casing the house. i feel kind of bad for the lady, though, because the guy seems like a jerk.