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Wow, that is really high. An ex of mine was like at 30 or something when we were dating (he was 24) and I just *hated* it. And everyone playfully calls him a slut all the time. Most of my guy friends are in the single digits, and there are guys who still think sex means something because my BF made me wait a long time, and I am his one and only

I kind of think it depends on how social the guy is. I think most guys would sleep with that many women if they were able. I can understand how it would bother you - some women just aren't wired that way. Let's say a girl is in a relationship for a year or two and it's a sexually active relationship. She probably has a lot of sex. But if a guy is single for those same two years, he might have several partners but nowhere near the amount of sex the girl in the relationship has. It all depends on how you look at it, I guess.

To me, it can be disconcerting to hear a "number" but once the shock of it wears off, it's not that big of a deal. As long as a person practices safe sex, that's all that really matters to me. I would rather he slept with 300 women safely than 30 unsafely.

I'm not defending the mentality that it's cool to go out every night and look for a girl to sleep with but it is what it is, right? Boys are sluts, for sure. I know we'd all like to think men are graceful, gentlemen-like creatures but they're not. They're dogs!

Well, everyone lives by their own set of rules. As long as you find someone who lives by a set of rules close to yours, it won't matter anymore what other people are doing. In other words, there are still plenty of guys out there that sex does mean more than just a night of fun. I personally find it rather sleazy for a guy to sleep with triple digit amount of women....but at least they are honest about it. I mean, there's nothing worse than a guy like that lying to a girl and saying that they don't get around as often as they do. I think lying about it is more sleazy than them actually doing it

I can't seem to rule out embellishment in my mind...What's that saying that when a woman tells you her number,you add to it and when a guy tells you his number you subtract?

I'm skeptical that someone wouldn't lose track after 30, 50, whatever. To know the exact count makes it seem like these guys are "keeping score," and if so, that strikes me as sleazy.

To be fair, though, I'm middle aged, so my memory isn't as good as it was in my 20s, and I couldn't give ya anything close to a "number" these days. Having been monogamous for the last 12 years, anything before that is best left forgotten!

Yeah, it's high for their age.  They are man-sluts.  But it shouldn't surprise you too much, this is common.  Consider if they have had any long term girlfriends, consider when they started having sex. While it's highly promiscuous and indicates absolutely no restraint on their part, it's plausible.

I had a roommate years ago who at about age 22 was well on her way to the triple digits.  I knew she hooked up with a lot of guys, she was sort of a dominant girl and she always used protection.  One day I had to go in her room to find something and I came across a "list" on notebook paper she had written of all the guys she had slept with.  I knew it wasn't just a boyfriend or kiss list because the more recent names on the list were ones I was familiar with and they were strictly hookups.  At age 22, there were over 80 names.  Some of them were first names only!  The funny part was that next to the name and date, she would have a little one word note next to it, like the name of the bar where they met or whatever.  It was hilarious how organized she was about it. 

Once I did the math, I realized that it meant that in approximately a six year period, that meant she slept with a new guy about once a month.  She never had a long term boyfriend.  And during the summer that she was my roommate, she had gone above her monthly average, so I wouldn't be surprised if that number hit triple digits before she was 24. 

I just wanted to say that I think that is completly disgusting and frankly I dont think anything worth bragging about. How gross!!!