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Misty · Dooney & Bourke

pity party -- want to join? - UPDATE

dangergirl · Kate Spade

pity party -- want to join?

Kelly · Hermes

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You certainly don't deserve it, and I can't believe how skeezy your ex and his girlfriend are being about your daughter!

FashionPrincess · Hermes

Oh, I'm so sorry! (((Big hugs))) Hang in there girl, karma will come back to bite your ex and his delusional new wife in the hiney!

halleybird · Hermes

I am so sorry! I hope things get better for you. If the stomach issues continue, see a dr. They can prescribe some (low-dose) anxiety medication that can help. I have had the same issue before (and I NEVER have appetite problems).

Cricket · Gucci

=( I'm sorry to hear you're having some tough times right now. It'll get better, and don't forget, karma's a bitch!

HeatherLynn · Gucci

I'm sorry! Why is it when it rains it pours? Ugh life sucks sometimes. Good luck! Let us know how the hearing turns out (I'm sure it will go great!).

Kari · Dooney & Bourke

Misty! What a horrible situation! My first thought was to put a stop to that psycho stepmom pretending to be the mother....I am pretty sure that is illegal somehow (wish I would have paid more attention in family law!) I know there are actions for interefering with a parent-child relationship....I would definitely bring it up in your court action...the judge will NOT be pleased with ex or stepmom.

The best advice I have ever received was to take things "One day at a time"...if you start to worry about next week and next year and on and on, you will feel an overwhelming sense of doom....just take a breath and focus on today each day and you will find it easier to deal with! I wish you lots of luck! And please don't worry...I think it takes WAY more than a thrown cell phone to get custody taken away...and be sure to make that asshole ex of yours pay your attorney fees when he looses!

Misty · Dooney & Bourke

awww, thanks you guys. you are all so sweet! i know things will be okay but i just worry about the effect this is having on my daughter. its certainly not in her best interest though they claim it is. the cell phone incident is an isolated one, but they will try and pull other things out of their arses to try and reinforce their unfounded claims that i am crazy and need to go to a battering prevention program. its seriously laughable.

Kari - lol at you calling him an asshole; its like you know him personally. :) alb met him but you, my dear, were spared that luxury. my attorney is aware of everything but she hasn't mentioned anything about it being illegal that psycho wife (PW from this point forth, although the initials should be his moniker instead) masquerades as my daughter's mother. i don't think there's anything i can do about it legally, have talked to my ex and he doesn't believe she would ever do such a thing. she takes her out for "mother-daughter" day and i just want to throttle her. get your own kid lady! oh wait, he did impregnate her so she has her own child now who is 6 mos. old but she continues to behave the way she did before her daughter was born, and that is pretending to be me. she can't stand that her husband even talks to me. WTF! um hello, we have a child together so unless she plans to have me killed, i'm not going anywhere. they have WAY more money than me, but i will fight them for my daughter even if i have to drain my 401k to do it.

i still want others to join my pity party so we can all work out our issues together. :)

halleybird · Hermes

FYI, Misty, I am sure the lawyers on the board can tell you for sure, but I know that it is *very* difficult to remove sole custody from the mom unless the child is of age & can choose, or the mom has had major issues.

Also, not to defend your ex-H's wife (who obviously has problems), but my stepmom has always called my sister & me her daughters. I don't think my mom loved it, but it is her way of showing that she feels no differently about us than she does her own daughter. As a kid, it always made me feel very safe & secure (and I didn't have to see those "awww, your parents are divorced" looks from adults who didn't know me). :)

Best of luck!

Misty · Dooney & Bourke

pity party -- want to join? - UPDATE

ILoveChoo · Hermes

omg. ((((hugs)))) I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine.

member · Hermes

OMG sweetie, I am so, so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through - your ex sounds like a real bastard. I hope you appeal this, and I know you'll win - what he's doing to you is totally wrong and ridiculous. Just know that we are here for you, and know that you'll get your daughter back. (((hugs))))

Mandy · Kate Spade

What an ass!! I'd be furious too. You are so strong for dealing with all of this. Hang in there. (((hugs)))

Misty · Dooney & Bourke

Thanks, girls. He is an ass and he actually tried to be nice to me last night at parent's night. Whatever. I fired my attorney today and have an appointment with a new one on Monday who has 22 years of family law experience. I am confident that he is the caliber of attorney that I need.

I'm deleting my post because my business has been out on front street long enough. I merely wanted to update you all on the hearing.

brazilian · Dooney & Bourke

Good luck with the new attorney! I cant believe your ex...he is not the type of person that should have a child. He is going through all of this to spite you, it seems he doesnt care for your daughters best interest at all. I hope everything goes as it should! Wishing you the best!

alb · Marc Jacobs

hey misty--i missed your post but wanted to say keep your chin up. i have no doubts that you will make a favorable impression (much more so than B) during any type of custody hearing you may have coming up. you are a great mother and just keep that in mind. good luck with your new attorney also, and let me know if there is anything i can do! take care, sweetie!

Misty · Dooney & Bourke

thanks, A. you are too sweet. i just need a lot of good vibes and prayers sent our way. obviously, you can imagine how this is affecting M not seeing me as often. my poor girl. i am confident that things will work out in my favor; i have a very good atty now. B and his B have to live with themselves and i am going to continue to take the high road no matter what they do or say.