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lynnie


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Ok, may delete this later.
I met a boy that had a gf about 2 weeks ago.   We hit it off and spent the night talking, and then he came out again the next day.  I am extremely attracted to him, but i knew he had a gf so i left it at that. 
Well, i ran into him last night and I find out that him and his gf broke up.  We ended up kissing, but i had so much to drink that i don't remember ANY OF IT.  Now, I feel really embarassed about it.  I feel like I wasted my kiss with him, and am scared to continue seeing him because I could start to like him.  And the timing is terrible- I don't think either of us wants anything serious.
What should I do- just stay away?  Or play with fire?  Or get to know him as friends?  I am so attracted to him and want to have fun, but im mad that i'm starting to like him.  I don't want to kill a real connection just because- you know?

-- Edited by lynnie at 17:25, 2007-08-03

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emery


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I understand where you are comming from. I think maybe getting to know him as a friend may be a good place to start. Depending on how serious he was about his last gf, may change your options a bit. It is also important to find out if he is over things, or is just looking for a rebound, or none of the above etc. If as you guys get more friendly you discover that you really like him and don't mind giving up your single-ness, then you know it is meant to be, but if you guys have been friends awhile, and you still would rather be single, I would say skip it, and at least you will have a cool new friend. Good luck!

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Kelly


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I guess it depends on how "into him" you could get, but if neither of you are looking for a serious relationship I don't think there's any harm in dating casually and having fun - if you want something like that.

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If I were you I'd see how just hanging out in a casual way works.  You said earlier that you have mutual friends, right?  So maybe you could try hanging out in groups for a while and see how you feel that way you aren't closing the door on anything but you aren't jumping into anything either.

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Suasoria


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I think it's OK to be attracted to someone and go out with them and even have a physical relationship...and still not take it especially seriously. I would hope you like him, of course, but you don't have to love him.

I'm sure it's a little embarrassing right now, but perhaps you can make a joke of it in some way, such as "I'd like to see you again, but without beer goggles this time," or something. Be grateful you don't remember what happened - it makes it much easier to put it behind you!

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lynnie


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Well, I guess it wasn't a big deal that I had too much to drink.  He came over last night and we kissed for about 4 hours.  It was so so so good.  I'll figure it out later.

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