Wow...Kenzie. My honest first thought? Walk the fuck out. File for unemployment based on unlivable working conditions. I'm totally serious. I know that it's financially not very feasible to do this...but god help me, cause that's what I want you to do. For your own sanity, you need to get out. I really don't have much good advice, but I feel for you, I really really do. I think you really need to look into quitting and filing for unemployment under some ethical reasons. How hard would your company fight the filings?
If worst comes to worst....you can come move onto my futon in Philly! Really, when are you coming down here next!?!?
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Oh man. Im sorry you go through soo much at work. I would not be able to handle it. You are one tough cookie! It seems like you have been unhappy at work for a loong time. Is there any way you could quit and find a temporary job (even if its not in your field) until you find a better job else where? I dont have any advice really, but I hope you find a new job soon. And you BETTER get the respect, pay, etc. that you deserve!!! Good luck!
Any chance you have an outside accounting firm auditing the financials right now? Just saying those things about doing illegal/unethical things would shoot a big red flag up for possible fraud ;)
I don't have much advice except walking out. Sadly your boss won't stop and HR won't be able to do anything. Could you take a temp job somewhere to cover the bills while you look for work? I hate my job at the moment but luckily its nothing as bad as the abuse you are working under.
Well I do hope that the new HR manager can change things around quickly. Do whatever you can to get yourself through the day. Just keep ignoring your bosses requests and hope he doesnt push any more than he has been. Again, good luck!!!
I'm sorry you're in this bad work situation. My advise (other than start looking for another job) is to document everything. Write down the date, time and what was asked of you to do. This is totally a CYA type thing -- if illegal stuff is being done, or asked of you, you don't want to be implicated. Email the list to HR so there's a record of you alerting them to the situation.
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Starstuff is right on. My hub was in this situation with some co-op advertising. His boss was asking him to do all kinds of illegal stuff - submitting false invoices, etc. He never did any of it and kept track of all the requests, including any memos, emails, and etc.
When he found another job after a few months, he got to tell his boss when he quit, "oh, and you know all that (illegal stuff)? I never did it. Here ya go."
Have you considered contacting an ombudsman? most people have never even heard of this person, but it is a government funded position where an "officer of the law" comes in to anything from daycares to salons to business corporations and investigates unethical or unlawful activity taking place. Your and my tax dollars pay for it. You should consider it. It is in place for situations just like this.
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Aw, you have had some bad luck with work before, but this must be so frustrating. Stick to your ethics and hopefully the new HR mgr will be able to at least support your concerns if he isn't able to change the company-wide practices.
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