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kenzie


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Sadly, this is not a funny one. I'm actually really, really upset and spent half the weekend crying.

I've decided to completely walk away from him. No friendship. Nothing. We had a great week and spent a lot of time together, but then on Friday he told me that the other girl (the one who lives far away) was coming this weekend and they were going out for dinner on Friday. He told me this on Friday around 4:30. It was all I could do to get through the last half hour of work.

After I left work, I called him and told him that I couldn't be friends with him anymore. I told him that I didn't want him to text message me, call me, speak to me, ask me to hang out, nothing. I was crying and he was upset. I told him that maybe if he wasn't insisting on keeping that other girl around that I might not have to walk away from him. And then he said, 'well, what if I don't talk about her?' WHAT?! WHAT?!! I don't think so. I told him that it was just too late and this hurts too much. He's made his decision and I had to make mine. He kept saying how this sucks and how he didn't want this to happen and he cares about me. Whatever. I'm done.

So, yeah, now I'm completely miserable, but I can't keep hanging out with him, quasi-dating him and then have this other girl hanging around. And that's that update. I told you it wasn't funny.

ETA: He is, by the way, still saying (as of our conversation on Friday) that he still cares about me alot and if only we didn't work together. WTF? Why does he have to keep this other girl dangling around? I'm looking for another job as we speak! He can't wait?! This has already been going on for nearly a year. What's another month or two? Asshole.


-- Edited by kenzie at 12:27, 2006-10-31

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Awww Kenzie I'm sorry.


 (((((Hugs))))


 I have been threw something similar before an I know how much it sucks and hurts at the same time.



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Mandy


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Oh no.  I'm sorry to hear this.  I know its a tough decision to make, but you are really smart to walk away. 

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Oh Kenzie, that sucks. I am so sorry. He is being so dense. You did the right thing for yourself by setting these boundaries -- I know it hurts so much now, but it will get better.

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Oh, honey, I'm so sorry it's not working out the way you want it to.


It sounds like this was a smart move on your part though.  It sounds like the whole situation was causing more pain than pleasure, and that's not good.



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Honey, I'm sorry. Love hurts sometimes. {{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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kenzie, i'm so sorry.  i agree with the other girls; you definitely made the right decision since this dumb boy is just hurting you.  when you get a new job, you can wash your hands of him completely (i'm sure he'll come running to you then, though).  i hope you feel better soon...



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I just saw this update and it seriously sucks. I'm sorry.


You know what? I hate, hate, hate when guys use excuses for why they can't be with someone. We all know that if they really wanted it, they'd make it happen, no matter what. It's like the boyfriend who says he doesn't ever want to get married, you break up, and then he's married to some other girl a year later. It's not really that he didn't want to get married, it's that he didn't want to get married to you/us. Or whatever. It's lame and I'm glad, for all us punked women out there, that you took the bull by the horns and made your own decision, independent of him. He's a jerk and that's all there is to it.


(((hugs))) I hope you feel better soon.



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kenzie


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blubirde wrote:

You know what? I hate, hate, hate when guys use excuses for why they can't be with someone. We all know that if they really wanted it, they'd make it happen, no matter what. It's like the boyfriend who says he doesn't ever want to get married, you break up, and then he's married to some other girl a year later. It's not really that he didn't want to get married, it's that he didn't want to get married to you/us. Or whatever. It's lame and I'm glad, for all us punked women out there, that you took the bull by the horns and made your own decision, independent of him. He's a jerk and that's all there is to it.


The Pickle Jar Effect. You fight with the pickle jar to get it open and you just can't. So you give up and hand it to someone else. They open it right away, without any trouble b/c you loosened it up just enough for them. Yeah, I am the master of the Pickle Jar Effect. It's happened with just about every single guy I've dated. Seriously.

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It hurts now, but at least you are at a point where you let go of the hope with some independence and dignity.  He's not your guy and it's just selfish to expect you to hang in there.  So be good to yourself and do keep your word to end this relationship all the way.

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