So, I was randomly searching myspace out of sheer boredom this evening and found some really "interesting/disturbing" photos and copy about a casual friend of mine. Anyway, it appears my friend might be into fetish stuff. Hey, I'm all for people doing what they want in life, but I just feel really odd about seeing this! I thought this person was a conservative, corporate ladder type of person... I guess I'm just having a hard time processing it because seeing it has really blown me away as it is not something I would have expected AT ALL and I am just not sure how I will be able to react when I see the friend next (won't be soon as we live in separate cities, but in the next 3 months or so).
Anyway, I know this is completely random... I guess it just goes to show, you really don't know what happens behind closed doors...or on myspace!!
Yeah, what I don't get about these situations is that if you found it, so could her employer / corporate ladder type people. I guess I just don't understand why people put their private life out there for all to see.....
I have no clue as to how to tell you to act. i'd pretend like I hadn't seen it but depending on what it is I may find it difficult to do that!
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Um, some people I know created a facebook group involving a mutual friend, a donkey and some fairly good incriminating pics. Maybe your friend was a victim of people as "funny" as my friends.
I am just not sure how I will be able to react when I see the friend next
I'm not sure why you'd feel like you'd have to react any differently than if you hadn't seen it. It might be unsettling to you, but your friend hasn't brought it up to you or mentioned it, so I don't see why your friendship can't just continue just as it has previously.
BTW it doesn't mean that your friend isn't *also* the corporate-ladder type. :)
I do agree with laken that it might not be the best thing to publicize on myspace, but obviously your friend wants that out there for a reason. Maybe the reason is because he/she wants to shock people, or maybe this is a really important part of your friend's life and they wanted to it out in cyberspace, but not to put it "in your face" (or in anyone's) directly. Either way, I don't really see why it should affect your frienship in any way.
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haha I totally know what you're going through. I was randomly googling my friends one day and I discovered one of my casual friends has a porn site featuring very explicit pics of her. I didn't know what to say to her either and actually we have drifted more apart since then. I just feel really awkward talking to her, like I might blurt something out and she'd know that I know.
Everyone's different, right? I know a guy who's seriously into feet. Seriously. Aside from a few flip-flop jokes, it never enters my mind/our conversation when we talk because it doesn't define him, at least it doesn't define him to me.
I'd just ignore it. It won't serve any purpose to act weird except to possibly embarass both him and you. Or, if you're really brave, you could make a joke about it and/or myspace. I'd laugh.
That said, I can totally understand how you could be taken aback by a thing like that, especially since he's advertising it on myspace. But to me the interesting aspect is not the fetish activity itself but the fact that he wants the world to know. If it were my friend, I'd be sending emails, posting comments, etc., completely enjoying the whole find. But I'm an insensitive bitch, so it might be the best thing to do.
I so I don't see why your friendship can't just continue just as it has previously. BTW it doesn't mean that your friend isn't *also* the corporate-ladder type. :)
Oh, we will still be friends... I'm pretty open minded about what people decide to do with their life. It also isn't that I think that someone with these interests can't also be the "corporate type", it is the linking of the two - "conservative, corporate ladder type". He obviously is not quite as conservative as I originally thought...!
In terms of the corp. ladder, I guess I just don't think it is the smartest professional decision, because if I can easily find it, so can employers. But, maybe he does want it out in the open. Anyway, I am going to tell him I saw it when I see him next. Basically, because I'm just generally not very good about keeping my mouth shut!
He obviously is not quite as conservative as I originally thought
I would agree! :)
I'm glad you will talk to him about it. Maybe he will realize that if you found it, so could employers. I have to agree that it's not the best move professionally...
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