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Misty


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this weekend.  I'm excited and nervous at the same time -- more excited though.  This would potentially be my second marriage.  Has anyone divorced and remarried?  Our relationship is damn near fairytale - everything I could ever want in a mate, my daughter LOVES him, etc., etc.  The nerves come from just the whole idea of it all (from his perspective) -- it would be his first and only marriage and he wants a big wedding.  Traditionally, we should have a small ceremony, my dress should not be stark white (I wouldn't want a white dress anyway)  -- and a few other "don'ts".  He says to heck with tradition but I balk because of what people might think -- she'd divorced, has a kid.  If my reservations about this are stupid, please just tell me.  His parents, gparents are pretty well-off and they want this to be a grand event bec. they are so happy that we found each other.  I just feel weird about it though. 


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Oh, Girl, we so need to go have drinks!

I'd take it one step at a time - I myself didn't want the whole traditional thing & neither did he so it worked out. I just say it's your wedding, do what you want, & fooey on what other people think. Take that with a grain of salt, though, cause I'm really not an "etiquette" follower when it comes to major events that are supposed to be about ME!

Congrats. biting my fingernails for ya........

ETA: I have been thinking about this & I wish you wouldn't worry about such things yet - go enjoy picking out the ring

-- Edited by laken1 at 16:56, 2006-06-15

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Yay!  Ring shopping is one of my very favorite kinds of shopping!


If he wants a big event, would he consider a small private ceremony and then a big separate reception?  You could even get married on your 'honeymoon' somewhere like Hawaii, and then come back and just have the party.


That said, I don't think the 'rules' really apply for second weddings anymore.  If you want a big wedding too, do it!  You guys get to do whatever you want to do, it being your wedding and all !  If anyone thinks anything of it, they need grow up and come live in 2006 with the rest of us.



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Yeah! That is one of the best parts of the whole process!

The first thing that comes to mind is Charlotte from Sex and The City, she decided that she wanted the big wedding the second time and it was beautiful!

Now on the other hand do what you want, many things about my wedding people thought were not by the book and I didn't care. It was the best day and totally worth it to sticking to what I wanted for that day, although we did compromise a lot too!

Best of luck and enjoy one thing at a time, it goes by so fast!

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I think you should relax, have fun, and do whatever you want. To hell with "tradition"!

For what its worth, my uncle-in-law (?) just got married to a woman who is divorced and has a little girl. They had a regular wedding, she wore white (maybe ivory, I don't know- close enough to white!) and the daughter was their flower girl. No one even gave it a second thought that she has been married before. So yeah, I say don't worry about what "they" will think and just do what you want to make the day fun and special.

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Who cares what's by the book or not?  It's YOUR wedding.  The people who are important in your lives aren't going to even think about whether you should or shouldn't have a big wedding, they'll just be happy for you.  Besides, what's right and wrong in weddings these days?  Everyone has their own take.  If your hubbie-to-be and his family want to show the world how happy they are about you by throwing a big wedding, I saw go for it!

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