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cat · Marc Jacobs

Is he flirting or being friendly?

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Ok, my gut says he's doing the thing where he flirts enough to get you to make the first move, then he may take you up on it, but not for anything serious. (Although, of course, I could be totally wrong). Am I right that you've told him you have a crush on him, and he hasn't offered anything? Just a little more flirtatious behavior than usual? I would put some distance between you two, and hold out for something better. He may come around, and unfortunately he may not, but you dont' need the hassle fo trying to interpret the uninterpretable. Just hold back. Oh, and flirt with someone in front of him. Doesn't hurt for him to know you're not sitting there waiting for him to make up his mind...

Wait - I missed the part about "I'm not dating anyone right now..." and he hasn't had a date in two years? This sort of screams "issues..." to me, based on, oh, my jackass guy friends who treat women like crap and have similar policies. I think he's angling for a hookup, if you so desire, but he's not willing to put himself out there at all... Drop it like it's hot girl - you're too honest and sweet and good for him. I'll bet he knows it too...

-- Edited by Dizzy at 19:27, 2006-03-27

blink · Coach

sounds like flirting to me, however, flirting is not always an indicator of wanting to take a relationship further...I have flirted with guy friends who I actually had no desire to get physical with, sometimes people do it just because it feels good and they are comfortable with that person, like an old friend. So on that note, just wait and see what else happens, it sounds to me like he has romantic interests and is testing the water since learning that you like him.

Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

My opinion is: He knows how you feel, if he is interested he will figure out a way to let you know. He may be hinting now but he will get bolder if he must. I would wait it out, or find a way to talk about your friendship (without seeming "we need to talk") to give him opprotunities to say how he feels. I hope that makes sense.

I think that he is definitely flirting. But his intentions are unclear. It could be a few things: He likes knowing you have a crush and It makes him feel good so he flirts. He may be into you too. He may think it is time for a hook up. It may be an ego thing. He may just be super comfortable around you. You know him better than any of us so what is your take.

I would really think about the different options and figure out what you are okay with, and your feelings on each of them so when they play out you are ready. I doubt he is doing something totally sleezy but you should be prepared just in case. I know I sound like a downer, but I think in situations where we are vunerable we must consider all options. I have had 1 too many guy frienships end. While I was left saying I thought he was "such a nice guy".

Keep us posted and I hope everything works out for the best

Kel · Coach

That is a tough one. It almost sounds to me that he is acting like someone who doesn't know how to tell a girl he likes him. This is only from my perceptive. I don't know what I would do.

blubirde · Chanel

Oh yeah, he's definitely flirting. Definitely. But like everyone else said, what does that mean? I hate to say it but if I had to guess, I'd say he's not up for anything serious, just something short and sweet, if you know what I mean. That said, if he is a bit on the immature side, he might just have problems saying he's into you now too and this is his way of trying to start something or show you his feelings have changed.

I guess I'd hold off and see what happens next. Maybe you can engineer some time alone with him to see what he does? If he makes a move then you can ask him what his intentions are, etc., etc., etc.

Good luck!