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poptart · Coach

how young is too young?

poptart · Coach

detroit wrote:

poptart wrote: How low can I go? legal age is 18. when I was 30 I dated a 20 year old (I told him I was 22)

Dang! I already told him how old I am.

Elle · Hermes

I wouldn't go lower than 21. I'm younger than most of my friends (some by just a year, some by more than 20) and it put a crimp in everyone's styles more than once when we wanted to make plans with people because I frequently couln't go anywhere that was suggested. In the year between when FH turned 21 and I did, he was occasionally refused alcohol because I was eating with him and I was not of age . Bummer.

poptart · Coach

Well, he is early 20s - above 21, so I get to avoid that, thank goodness. I can't believe people wouldn't serve your DH, Elle!

Detroit, that is hilarious!

-- Edited by poptart at 16:04, 2006-03-06

Elle · Hermes

poptart wrote:

Well, he is early 20s - above 21 for sure.

Over 21 = Fair Game

Enjoy!

Hermione · Kate Spade

poptart - early twenties is absolutely fine - when i was 23 i briefly dated an 18 yr old and i don't think it was scandalous ... i think 21+ is totally fine for you.

p.s. - you go on the younger man! woo!

blubirde · Chanel

They have to be old enough to buy me a drink. Other than that, I'm cool with any age. (As long as maturity isn't a factor, which, unfortunately, it often is.)

Lilykind · Hermes

The whole drinking age thing can get really awkward (I'm 20, BF is 33 and I CAN'T WAIT for my 21st in June), but if he's over 21 it's fair game.

Maddie · Coach

I would not date younger now but I'm only 20. However I just don't know if I could be attracted to someone younger. I like older guys.

JackieO527 · Dooney & Bourke

I say 21 and over...Men age much more quickly than woman, while we are still ready to run around, they are slowing down. I say go for it!

NCshopper · Hermes

Maddie wrote:

I would not date younger now but I'm only 20. However I just don't know if I could be attracted to someone younger. I like older guys.

Ditto. I only dated a few guys that were just a few months younger than me and I couldn't handle it. Younger guys just have no appeal to me.

I also think that guys tend to mature slower than women, so I always found that to be a huge problem, even if it was a matter of them being a few months younger.

sfcaligirl · Dooney & Bourke

i've been wondering the very same thing lately, poptart! i recently gave my phone number to a guy who i later found out just turned 21.... he looks so much older! (like a very cute 25-ish.) i'm 24 and i know that doesn't sound like a huge difference, but i'm debating on whether or not i should hang out with him.... i usually like guys my age or older. hmmm........

lynnie · Chanel

hmm, in theory, I'd say 21 and up. If it got serious though, 21 might start to feel really young unless they were pretty grounded and mature already. So maybe 25? Has anyone seen the Lisa Loeb dating show? I know she felt weird dating a 30 year old when she was 37, which I didn't think was a big deal, but she didn't like it. Whatever makes you feel comfortable, you don't want to feel like you're with someone that doesn't understand you and isn't on the same (or at least similar) page.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I think dating young for fun is great - and I am 31. But I've found three problems: 1) it feels like I always have an advantage just because of life experience, verbal skill, maturity, whatever. The jgy ends up losing every argument. So I don't think they can keep up if they're more than five years younger. And 2) They're kind of slutty. This can be good, if that's what you're looking for. But we're just not in the same place. And 3) They hang out with people their own age who can be a little boring - and especially girls their age who are adorable, so I feel a little old. (It's a compliment to hear "You look SO GOOD for your age..." but it's not necessarily as nice from a poreless 22 year old.)