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Girls, I need help!  Here's my situation:  I have been going to my hair stylist, D, for about 8 years.  She has always cut and highlighted my hair.  After several times of asking her to try something different w/the color ( I wanted it more streaky) and her not listening or not knowing what to do ( I think we were just in a rut), I decided to try someone else.  So I went to a color professional by my house and I love what he did!  However, he does not cut women's hair, only dyes.  I have to go and get my hair cut next week by D, and I feel I owe her an explanation as to why someone else died my hair and why as long as I like it this way, he'll continue.  Maybe I shouldn't feel this way, but I've known her so long, I feel bad.  I feel disloyal!


Anyhow, I was thinking of fibbing and telling her that my boyfriend's cousin is in beauty school or just finished and needs the practice so she's doing it for free.  His cousin really is a hair stylist btw.  I just don't have the heart to tell her she couldn't get it right, so I went elsewhere, especially when I still want her to cut my hair.  Does my explanation sound good?  What would you do?



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erin


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this is sticky..esp since you've been going to this person for so long. i would go with the bf's cousin excuse and say you need to save a little money or something. with that, chances are she won't bring it up again.

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erin wrote:

this is sticky..esp since you've been going to this person for so long. i would go with the bf's cousin excuse and say you need to save a little money or something. with that, chances are she won't bring it up again.
You're a hair stylist - will she buy it?  I'm so nervous that she is going to hate me - LOL.

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i would go with the cousin story.


i have been with my "core" stylist for 16 years.  I also have 2 others that I visit as well depending on work schedules (don't you love i have a stylist in every city!)... my "Core" stylist is VERY cool with the fact that i swap around... in fact she gets a kick out of seeing what others do to my hair...  but that doesn't stop me from feeling a teeny bit guilty... so then i always over tip! 



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perhaps i am alone here, but i would be honest with her.  just tell her that you felt like you needed a fresh point of view to consult with you regarding color, but that you love the way she cuts your hair and you would like to continue seeing her for that.


I don't think we should feel trapped in relationships with our hair stylists.  And I don't think it is okay to lie to someone, even if it is to "spare" her feelings.  what is she ends up knowing the other stylist or finding out?


just another opinion for you to think about...I am not being critical of you...I would be tempted to do the same, but honesty is the best policy.



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Say hi to her like normal,and wait for her to notice. (like its not even a big deal)When she does, play it off with a comment like, "well,color is easy to fix if its too much or not enough,so I tried someone my cousin/boyfriend/mom recommended...and its different. I like it,but its YOU who I trust to cut it. Thats way harder to fix!!! "


Laugh it off,and she'll be flattered you still want to come to her,and it explains the new colorist. Chances are,as long as you keep her for SOMETHING,she'll be ok.


 although, Im a hairdresser, and Id rather someone be honest if they were unhappy with my work--Id keep trying til I got it right...Ive done it before!!! HTH



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happydaisy69 wrote:

 although, Im a hairdresser, and Id rather someone be honest if they were unhappy with my work--Id keep trying til I got it right...Ive done it before!!! HTH

Oh, she's great and I know at some point, I want to go back to her for color.  Just right now, I wanted something way more drastic, and I think she was afraid to do it, so I went to someone else.  I think I'm just going to tell her that my boyfriend's cousin did it for free and I'm trying to save money, so as long as she's willing, I'm going to have her do it.  Then that way, I have an open end to have her start doing my color again.


I'm not lying to her to be spiteful, I know she'd be disappointed if I told her that I need to try someone new - I know her too well to tell her that and think it wouldn't bother her.


I appreciate all of your advice/input.



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