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jen · Kate Spade

So mad.

carmenb513 · Coach

Did she give you money at least from the return?

Becca · Kate Spade

Did she buy it from an actual LV store? Because unless they changed their policy within the last few months, they only issue store credits with returns. Regardless, that sucks.

Tati · Chanel

im sorry! i would be SO upset with my mom too if she had done something like that to me!

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Oh wow. I would be upset too. If it were me, I would flip it on her - instead of getting mad, try saying something like "I hope you never thought I would spend your money on something so expensive. I would feel terrible. I guess you didnt' talk to me about it because you didn't want to confront me and I hope I didn't do anything to make you feel like that is difficult." Then sigh, and say how much you were enjoying having a treat for yourself, and explain about the christmas presents. She's setting you up in a no-win situation, and that's the best way out without giving her a chance to exert more authority. Just don't fight the grab for control. It sounds like she really loves you and just maybe forgets you're another person with boundaries that she needs to respect sometimes. So if you are really nice about reminding her, it will probably go a lot easier on both of you. Good luck.

-- Edited by Dizzy at 00:46, 2006-01-29

scarlett · Marc Jacobs

I think Dizzy's suggestion is really good. It's a smooth way to make her see your side of it and explain yourself while starting to set up the boundaries. Have you talked to your mom about it yet?

jen · Kate Spade

I'm hungover and still mad so I have not talked to her yet.

Aclassicbeauty-I got it at the LV boutique at Saks, they have a thirty day money back policy.

Carmen-nope, no money yet. I better get something though! I wish I was mature enough to calmly talk to her about it, but I'll probably just use her credit card to buy it off of eluxury. j/j I will talk to her about it first.

laken1 · Hermes

Ok, i guess i'm confused - did you buy it with your money or her money? If it was your money, she seriously needs to get back within her mom boundaries. It's none of her business. If it was her money, I really don't know what to say because my mom would whip my ass over that as well & I'm 33 & married!

cc · Marc Jacobs

Were any of the gifts that you returned in order to finance the purchase of the wristlet gifts that she had given you? If so, maybe she was offended or hurt by that. I suppose it doesn't make much difference either way - returning the thing to LV without talking to you first wasn't the best idea.

jen · Kate Spade

A couple small things were returns from her presents, a couple were things I bought myself with my money, but most was from my aunts gifts. So the money was mine. We come from a family of returners-everything has a receipt attatched to it, so she's not offended-she's just being a bitch. She did it on purpose to piss me off. I'm not just saying that-my mom and I do not get along and she finds ways to piss me off. Today she acts like nothing happened at all.

Becca · Kate Spade

I'm sorry jen! I hope you are able to get your money back, it is yours!

This time get it from a LV store, that way she can't return it!

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

OMG! I'd be furious!

luckylily · Gucci

I'm sorry. I just wanted to say that I completely understand your anger. I haven't lived with my family for a very long time, but my Mom used to do things like that all the time.

The summer before I left for University, she returned a bottle of perfume I'd bought with my own money. She didn't even know I'd bought it, so not only did she return it, but in order to find it should would have to have been looking through my things. Ugh!

Mandy · Kate Spade

OMG!! I can't imagine my mom doing something like that. I would be so upset. Thats definitely overstepping the mom boundary. Did she give a reason for returning it?

KE · Kenneth Cole

Wow-I find that absolutely unfathomable!