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lynnie


Chanel

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ok- so i heard my roommates talking about me again today- i had left a note saying that january was my last month- thanks for letting me live here.  well- the guy goes thats bullshit- she owes us a week of rent, this says something about her... blah blah.  so i can't take it anymore- i go outside and ask to speak to the girl (the nicer more neutral one) and i say look, please don't say these kind of things while i'm there.  i know that i should have talked to you but i heard ______ say something the other night that made me really uncomfortable and so I found an apartment the next day.  and just kinda said the things that were chaotic in my life and that i had felt uncomfortable there. she apologized, said she thought i was a great roommate, and said ______ just said those things because they were so stressed about their trip.  Ok, fine, whatever.  she asked me to stay, but i said i already paid for a diff. place (not true.. but i can't stay- i didnt tell her that i hated the area)  I then wrote an email to her- they left for somewhere- that said something like-


Hey ______,


Just let me know if you want me to put an ad up on craigslist.  i'll totally do it and then set up appointments for times when you are also home.  If you post a listing today or tomorrow and can't find anyone for a feb. 1 move in- then i'll pay you for one week of extra searching- $150.  Sorry I didn't talk to you first but i just felt really uncomfortable about the situation.  I hope somehow you two can understand.


So hopefully that'll solve everything for the time being- the dude is probably really mad at me but whatever.  i'm still really uncomfortable- i wish they didn't say things while i was in my room!  i'm cool with the girl but i feel weird around the guy after all the stuff he has said.  i want to get out of here.


*other place update*


so i went by last night to check measurements and ended up hanging out with the girl and her friend the whole night til 2-ish..drinking and you know  i had so much fun.  im going to write her an email today and say i want the place if she hasnt found anyone else and so i can meet the other girls.  the room may be small but its a completely better situation and i felt happy there.



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Yay!  I'm glad you are getting out of your crappy situation.  That guy sounds like a total jerk.  I think you are being completely reasonable.

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yay! i'm glad the situation is working out.

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Chanel

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good for you, iam happy for you

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I'm so glad you decided to move and have already told the old roommates.  I was in a very similar situation years ago.  I moved from a really nice apartment with a bad roommate into a really crappy, tiny apartment.  Even though the apartment was rediculously small, I was so much happier to live in some place where I felt comfortable.  Also, location makes a big difference too, IMO.


I have also been in a situation where my roommates would say mean things about me when I was in the other room, and I could hear them.  It can be really hurtful.


Anyway, my only word of caution would be that you can't rely on the new roommates to become your best friends.  It is great if they are cool, and even better if you all can hang out, but sometimes it doesn't work out that way.  It sounds like you've already considered that and you are thinking pretty clearly.


Good luck!



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That's great Lynnie. I'm so happy for you!

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*doing the happy dance, happy dance, happy dance*


yay! lynnie im so pysched for you to move and you are totally being the better person about this. my lord, i wouldn't pay the extra money or do any of that work with craig's list. and oh my lord...i totally didn't get that it was a guy saying the mean stuff about you, that does make it scary, not that females aren't scary, but it ups the ante when its a male, ya know?


*happy, happy dancing around the room*


to the yucky roomies


<--that's me, doing the happy dance, uh, while juggling?



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what great news for you! 

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Congratulations!  That's great news.  You really are being the bigger person here and your old roommates sound like they have issues. 


That's also super great that you are enjoying your soon-to-be roommates so much! 



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I'm glad you're getting out of there. You'll be so much happier elsewhere! I also want to tell you how impressed I am about how you're handling this whole ordeal. I think it's very big of you to offer to pay extra and help them find a new roommate through craiglist. I would probably hold a grudge and just leave. I think that's very mature of you, and FWIW, I'm very proud .

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Yay!  I'm so glad you decided to move out!  I think things are going to be much better for you.  Please keep us updated!

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I think you handled this very appropriately! And just because they're mad, it doesn't mean you have to do MORE for them. They're being shitty, so just ask what they think you should do. That puts it back on them and they can't keep playing a guessing game where you keep trying to make them happy and they keep saying "nope, that wont' do it" after your every effort. You definitely have been classy about this. And what the hell is he doign badmouthing you when you can hear? This has happened too often to be an accident - I'm so glad you're getting out of there.

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Lynnie -


I think it's great you found somewhere so quickly! The guy sounds like a jerk!  I've had a great success from www.roommates.com.  I found my previous roomie there, and even though I had to move like 5 moths later (becuase of my job) she and I still remain close.  It makes a world of difference when you get along with who you live with.



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