...things are starting to come together for the holiday for me / us (just in time). Counseling seems to behelping DH and I communicate better - and get along better - with each other, which is absolutely the best thing, because I love him and want us to be happy together. Also I *think* I just took the last two rush holiday orders today - and delivered them today - so now maybe I can enjoy the upcoming holiday. I love what I do for a living, but sometimes the whole fall / holiday retail season wears me out.
AND a surprise package came today...return address Red Envelope, and addressed to DH. I called him (he is out of town for business until tmo. night) and he said DON'T OPEN IT!! I am well-known for not being able to leave packages unopened for long. So...it appears that despite my mantra of "honey, don't buy me anything" for the holidays, he has bought something...and I am excited to know what he chose. I think I will snoop on the RE site to see what he might have been thinking of. I have two more things to buy him (tomorrow) and then to wrap his gifts, so my holiday shopping is nearly done too.
DH is off work from this Friday through New Years, so I am really hopeful that we'll get some good "couple" time together - it's been sorely lacking in our marriage for the last two years, and I think that's been part of the problem.
Sorry for being so wordy, but this year has been HARD and I am really starting to be hopeful for a better year in 2006. And I had to share it with people who would understand. *s*
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awww. your post just sounded like one big exhale. i'm glad everything is working out for you. enjoy your couple time together.
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If you want to be something in life, You ain't gonna get it unless, You give a little bit of sacrifice, Oohh, sometimes before you smile you got to cry.." -The Roots
So happy to hear that things are getting better for you... I know how hard marraige can be and communication is also something my husband and I have to work on daily! It seems like such a simple thing, but it can deteriate and leave you wondering just what went wrong. My husband and I have also gone thru counciling in last year, and I can also say it really has helped. I think that this busy world: work, responsibilities in and outside the home, modern technology, all of this has made our interrelationships challenging. You are doing so well-we all are proud of you and you should be of yourself... god bless...
Thanks everyone; it brings tears to my eyes to read your responses. It does feel like I've been barely breathing for the last few months - this time of year is always like that - but having the relationship issues has just killed me. It's hard for me to concentrate on things like the business and other "life stuff" when my heart has been so sad. Counseling has been a tough step, but I am encouraged - and DH is completely supportive of it, which makes me feel that he does still care about the relationship, and that means a lot to me.
lilyann, you are absolutely right. DH's workload has nearly tripled since we moved here, and I have been focused on growing my business, which sucks a lot of time and energy out of me. We both have struggled with managing our workloads. And we haven't devoted the time we should to our marriage lately. We've also built up resentments and frustration, which make even the simplest interactions painful at times, so "date nights" weren't even something I was looking forward to...so we kind of stopped most of that altogether. But I am truly hopeful that we can get back to a better place...or move forward to one. I know your marriage has taken its blows too, and I hope very much that you and your husband can be happy(ier) together too.
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