STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

hey girls, remember my ex-boyfriend?  he and i broke up two years ago, but we had the most tangled, messy, back-and-forth relationship until january, when i finally cut off all contact with him.  well, we talked on the phone last week while i was home visiting.  first time since january!  here's what happened...

i actually called him first a few weeks ago.  i was going to be visiting friends in boston and we have a lot of the same friends, so i knew i'd probably see him while i was there (he still lives there).  i felt like it would be better for both of us if i gave him a little warning that i'd be in town.  so i left him a message.  he called me back while i was with my family in CT (a few days before i was heading up to boston) and we ended up chatting for a while.  i was a little nervous at first, but it was nice to talk to him and catch up.  i said maybe we could meet for lunch while i was in boston and he said he'd love to.  he also suggested dinner and invited me over to see his house (he said it's decorated pretty well now and looks nice).  to that i just deadpanned, "i've been to your house."  (hehe, that one felt good!)  i said i'd call him while i was in town to make lunch plans.  before we got off the phone he was saying, "it was so great to talk to you, i've missed you a lot, i can't wait to see you, etc."  it was nice to hear that, but even nicer to realize that hearing him say those things didn't make me weak in the knees anymore!  yay!

i arrived in boston friday night, went out with friends, had a blast.  then my friend invited me to go to cape cod with her for saturday and sunday, so i went.  nice to escape the city heat and go to the beach!  so saturday night, i called my ex to tell him about my change of plans.  i told him that i was on the cape and wouldn't be coming back in time to hang out the next day in boston.  my friend was driving me straight to the airport.  he was all disappointed and asked if i could come back earlier because he really wanted to see me.  and i said, "sorry, it doesn't sound like it's going to work out this time.  too bad."  i'm so proud of myself for not giving in and changing my plans for him!  it felt great....

so then he tells me that he's been thinking lately of coming out to san francisco in the fall.  one of his best friends lives here.  and he was like, "you know, i figured i should visit my friend and you're out there and i'd love to see you..."  i replied, "oh because we talk so much now?  you thought it'd be nice to see me?"  i said it in a semi-joking way- i was shocked that he was making plans before even knowing if i'd want to see him!   he answered, "i still think about you a lot and was hoping you'd want to see me."  hmmmmm, interesting....  we'll see if that visit ever happens...

just wanted to share my story... aren't you all proud that i resisted the urge to change my plans and see him?  i really think i'm finally getting over him....