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Karina · Chanel

RE: Maybe I'm just a little old-fashioned

lynnie · Chanel

laken1 wrote:

lynnie wrote: He was just not enough of a man for me- turns out he was a huge momma's boy who still slept with his stuffed animals and was scared of vegetables. So he was like my 12 year old brother basically, but less mature, and the whole thing CREEPED the f*ck out of me. It was like he just had NO IDEA how to take a girl out, but he would IM me weird things like "I want to know what you taste like." His favorite band was Weezer, so he was really emo as well. He worshiped Weezer and had Weezer craft days (making Rivers Cuomo out of popsicle sticks, for example.) The whole thing was really bizarre and I'm glad those days are over, though it made for great stories. Poor guy. I am still laughing at this - I don't even want to know how you found out he was "scared of vegetables" but I have to say I don't know what is funnier - the veggies or the craft days.....- -- Edited by laken1 at 18:08, 2005-07-05

Yes, very strange boy indeed. I found out he was scared of vegetables because I suggested going to Chipotle because I love their guacamole, so I suggested getting it. He said, and I quote, "Oh wow, guacamole...hmm, I don't know about avocados. They're scary. I'm scared of most vegetables." Sort of rocking back in forth in the booth. He was very kiddish through the whole thing, and I couldn't wait to run away. He had his Weezer lunchbox with him as a manpurse so I asked him about it and he told me his obsession with Weezer. The sad thing is that he is really cute actually and before I heard his strange lispish kiddy voice and got to know him, I had a crush on him. He looks like Cliff from Bring it On, it pains me to type that.

ETA: another thing he said that turned me off- this isn't meant to offend anyone. He kept calling himself a "cheap jew" and saying he was so cheap because he was jewish. He was trying to be funny, but no, didn't work. Did not work at alllllllllll.

-- Edited by lynnie at 11:03, 2005-07-06

blink · Coach

This is my opinion and I do not consider it to be old fashioned, just polite and gentlemanly, but I say that if he asks you out, he should take care of the bill 100%. If he's low on cash, a date could kindly ,let you know this before the two of you decide to go somewhere and that way you can always mutually decide to split the cost if you want to go somewhere that he can't afford both of you.

Since you did lose the bet on paying for the movie, that's fine, but I too would have totally expected him to cover the meal and anything else.

What to do....I say give him another shot, if he asks you to split the bill again, act surprised, but I wouldn't go so far as to say why, there's not really a polite way to do so....and anyway he should already know that most men of class do pay for their dates, I don't know who he has been dating before you, maybe he had a serious girlfriend and he got used to splitting the bills? If it bothers you, don't date him. It would bother me, but since there was the movie bet, that could be the only reason and if I liked him I would give him another chance to show he is a gentleman.

Andrea Julia · Coach

lynnie wrote:

ETA: another thing he said that turned me off- this isn't meant to offend anyone. He kept calling himself a "cheap jew" and saying he was so cheap because he was jewish. He was trying to be funny, but no, didn't work. Did not work at alllllllllll.-- Edited by lynnie at 11:03, 2005-07-06

Ugh! It's disgusting that he would choose to blame his cheapness on a whole group of people than just taking responsibility for it. I know that that is a common stereotype of jewish people, but why perpetuate a negative stereotype? Not all jewish people are cheap, just like all non-jewish people are not "not cheap". Looks like he was trying to make it seem acceptable by blaming it on his heritage. This guy sounds like such a loser.

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

you guys i have to come clean, aj knows but i never told you all--elevator guy was cheap!!! lynnie, i couldn't let you tell your story and not 'fess up. same exact thing happened, we went to a place where you pay first and i guess i was ahead of him in the "line" or whatever and i ordered the stupid wrap sandwich or whatever it was and i only had my debit and the cashier's like we only take debit for more than $5 and i'm like ok just charge me $5 for it at which point, elevator guy goes "well you could get a soda, that'd make it more than $5" oh.my.god. every single girl i've told that story to has been shocked and appalled! can you imagine?! what a waste. because elevator guy was cute too, he kinda looks like nick lachay and yes, it pains me to type that as well! and he wasn't jewish which just goes to show there's nothing to that stereotype. oh and you think being scared of vegetables is weird--elevator guy used to try on girl's sunglasses!

blubirde · Chanel

esquiress wrote:

you guys i have to come clean, aj knows but i never told you all--elevator guy was cheap!!! lynnie, i couldn't let you tell your story and not 'fess up. same exact thing happened, we went to a place where you pay first and i guess i was ahead of him in the "line" or whatever and i ordered the stupid wrap sandwich or whatever it was and i only had my debit and the cashier's like we only take debit for more than $5 and i'm like ok just charge me $5 for it at which point, elevator guy goes "well you could get a soda, that'd make it more than $5" oh.my.god. every single girl i've told that story to has been shocked and appalled! can you imagine?! what a waste. because elevator guy was cute too, he kinda looks like nick lachay and yes, it pains me to type that as well! and he wasn't jewish which just goes to show there's nothing to that stereotype. oh and you think being scared of vegetables is weird--elevator guy used to try on girl's sunglasses!

hahaha! isn't it funny how we don't want to admit bad things about people we see? like it's some reflection on ourselves instead of their stupid asses being... well, stupid i guess!

this post made me smile.