STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

tara t · Marc Jacobs

quick question about politeness

lsubatgirl · Gucci

Umm if you aren't working with her anymore and you haven't talked to her in months I don't think you have to get a gift or send money. That is a tad tacky to me.

tara t · Marc Jacobs

i thought it was kinda tacky too.

blink · Coach

what? there is nothing tacky about her sending the annoucement about her child so long as you are someone she knows, there is no reason to consider it a request for gifts either, since when do people have that idea? she sent you the announcement because she is proud of her son and wants to share his accomplishment, not because he needs your presents!

hotcocoa · Kate Spade

were you somewhat close with this woman? i might send a congratulations card, but i wouldn't feel obligated to send a gift.

tara t · Marc Jacobs

not at all close. that's why i think it's weird.

hotcocoa · Kate Spade

quote:
Originally posted by: tara t
"not at all close. that's why i think it's weird."

she's just a proud mother. don't even try and brainstorm about a gift!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

i don't think it's mean of you to question her motives--i personally knew people who sent announcements to the most random people SOLELY to get cash. they freely admitted this to me and i remember thinking--ew...tacky.

anyway, we'll never know if she's just proud or just tacky but whatever the case i don't think you're obligated to get a gift.

lsubatgirl · Gucci

quote:
Originally posted by: esquiress
"i don't think it's mean of you to question her motives--i personally knew people who sent announcements to the most random people SOLELY to get cash. "

My cousin is digging up people she hasn't talked to in years and inviting them to her bridal showers and wedding. It is riduculous.

beachgirl · Kenneth Cole

I always thought an announcement was just to share the happy news, and an invitation meant you had to send a gift...

Tati · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: beachgirl
"I always thought an announcement was just to share the happy news, and an invitation meant you had to send a gift..."

Yup, thats how I see it.

She's just letting you know and proud of her son, that's all I'm sure. If it was an invitation, then of course a gift if you were to go to it........

RyanJ · Coach

quote:
Originally posted by: lsubatgirl
"My cousin is digging up people she hasn't talked to in years and inviting them to her bridal showers and wedding. It is riduculous."

I HATE when people do that. My boyfriends graduation party for high school there were about 500 people invited and he knew about 30 of them. His mother just invited everyone they knew in order to get money. I think that is so tacky when people do that. She is going to so pissed when my bf and I get married. She is not going to have a say in who is invited and we are going to keep it small.

I wouldn't worry about a gift. If you hardly know the women and have never met her son then there is no reason to get him anything. He just graduated from high school. I don't see the point in sending an annoucement to a person that the kid has never even met. Great you graduated form highschool- most people do. Send me an annoncement when he finds the cure for aids then I will be impressed.

-- Edited by RyanJ at 23:02, 2005-05-16

sage · Dooney & Bourke

No gift. If it was in fact an innocent and proud announcement, great, no gift. If it was a blatant attempt to extract money from everyone and their dog, you need to nip this behaviour. Sending anything would only perpetuate the tackiness.

And RyanJ, the last two lines in your post made me laugh!!!

-- Edited by sage at 20:14, 2005-05-16

Drew · Gucci

Ryan J., you crack me up!

I remember announcements being a device for money when I was going for school. At least that's all the kids talked about it. I don't think I even bought announcements; I'm so anti-everything.