i am throwing a baby shower for a friend next weekend. the invites went out over 3 weeks ago and i still have 9 people that have yet to rsvp. HELLO, RUDENESS!
anyway, i don't know any of the invitees that have yet to respond so i don't have their phone numbers. i hate to bug the guest-of-honor for them, but she is the only one i know who would have their contact info. i also hate the thought of asking her for the phone numbers because then she will know about the bad rsvp behavior of the invited guests. which sucks. i don't want her to have to think about any of it or even know about it.
what should i do? i guess i could look up their numbers in the phone book... or call her husband for them (except he'd probably end up asking her)? how would you approach this?
Hmm...I guess I would just assume they are not coming and plan accordingly. And if they do show up without RSVPing, I would find a way to make a comment about it even if it was just, "I'm terribly sorry that I didn't prepare enough favors or place settings for you (or gamepieces if you are doing a game), but I wasn't expecting you."
I don't think you should have to call them unless you think they didn't get the invitation for some reason.
I am sure you had a rsvp date on the invite, but often people don't always respond if they actually can't make it. I am guilty of that. Assume they are not attending, but in general you should be prepared with extras for at least a few guests. But do not decide to make any sort of passive aggressive comment about it should those guests end up arriving, that is completely tasteless! This shower is for your friend, not you, so you might kindly ask her how she wishes you to proceed, this is OKAY to do. She may contact those guests herself and make sure they at least know they were invited.
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after a conversation with my husband about this, i've decided to assume that they will not be attending, but i will be prepared if some of them DO show up.
i'm just stunned that there were so many that didn't even bother to call.