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blubirde · Chanel

No mention of Valentine's Day - okay?

Cricket · Gucci

Maybe he's waiting for you to bring it up first.

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

scenario 1: he doesn't want to scare you off by mentioning it. if you've made your 'i don't wanna get serious' mentality apparent to him, maybe he's just making an effort to abide by your wishes.

scenario 2: he doesn't want to get serious w/ you either and he's not mentioning it because he doesn't want u to get "the wrong idea."

don't know which scenario is more likely (i'd need more info), what do you think?

bumblebee · Dooney & Bourke

this has happened to me before. i think some guys (and probably some women, too, but i haven't dated any so i don't know) don't know what to do on v-day and don't want to do the wrong thing, so they just stick their heads in the sand and wait for the whole thing to blow over. last year, this guy i had been dating (nothing serious, but casually dating for like 4-5 months) sort of noncommittally seemed like he wanted to hang out on v-day when i mentioned it, then didn't call me and didn't return my call for the two days before and about a week after. when he finally resurfaced, he was all apologies and said he just didn't know what to do so he tried to ignore it and hoped it would just go away. mature, right? needless to say, i broke up with him immediately. i'm not saying it's normal, but i'm saying it's not that uncommon, esp. if you haven't been dating the guy for very long.

blubirde · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: esquiress
"scenario 1: he doesn't want to scare you off by mentioning it. if you've made your 'i don't wanna get serious' mentality apparent to him, maybe he's just making an effort to abide by your wishes.
scenario 2: he doesn't want to get serious w/ you either and he's not mentioning it because he doesn't want u to get "the wrong idea."
don't know which scenario is more likely (i'd need more info), what do you think?"

Well, it could be either. I don't really think it's #2, although it's possible. I haven't told him I don't want to get serious but I think he kinda knows, based on him hinting around and my reactions. So I guess either is possible. Either way I suppose it's okay. I just wish I weren't making things more difficult for myself!

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

That sounds so hard! I wish it was easier to find out what those bozos are thinking sometimes.

Cricket · Gucci

Well, did he end up mentioning it at least?

blubirde · Chanel

Nope. Didn't even talk to him yesterday. No surprise though. He had work and class until really late and I had plans with friends. We're doing something tonight. I'm just going to forget about it. He didn't mention it and I didn't mention it. If it meant that much to me, I could have said something before yesterday - all the roses and junk

just got to me I suppose! I don't even enjoy Valentine's Day! Why should it matter then? No wonder guys think we're psycho!