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pollyjean23


Marc Jacobs

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Can I get your opinion on what to send or give to the family who lives next door to us?  Their husband/father was shot and killed while he was at work on Tuesday afternoon.  He was trying to evict a tenant from one of his properties at the time; they had gotten into an verbal dispute over it.  The guy left and came back and shot our neighbor when he was just sitting in his minivan- -right in front of onlookers at other homes and one of our neighbor's employees.

I am probably going to just have flowers sent over unless someone can help me think of a better idea (something that doesn't require any work on their part).

Also, (if I go with flowers/plant) if anyone has any suggestions for whether I should send from a local shop or one of the online flower sites, please pass them along. 

For background:  Even though we live right next door to them, we don't have much interaction.  Just the occasional wave and hello.  I have been in their house one time, and we have lived here for 2 years.  My husband and I talked to Jacob just about 2-3 weeks ago while he was out in his driveway.  He and his daughter had just returned from orientation at the Univ of South Carolina.  He was affixing a USC bumper sticker to his minivan. 



-- Edited by pollyjean23 at 18:54, 2008-08-04

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Oh my goodness! How awful! I would probably just send flowers, and I think even if you use one of the online flower places they contract out one of the local places, so maybe just bypass and go directly to a local place if you know of a reputable one. Then maybe check on them in a couple of weeks once everything has settled down and bring them a meal.

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HeatherLynn


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I would maybe get them a gift card to a restaurant where they can call in and get food. I have a feeling they won't be cooking for awhile. A lot of people will be bringing them food over the next week or so. I like the idea of cooking them something, but I know sometimes they can get too much all at once and aren't able to eat it all. I would use a local florist. I have had flowers sent to me from an online site and they are 'assemble yourself' type things. Maybe just send flowers for the funeral instead of directly to their home?

What an awful story!

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That is so sad.

I agree that food always seems to be the thing people need at that time. Maybe you could make them some meals that are frozen so they can keep them as long as they need them (in case everyone else is overwhelming them with food). In a couple weeks, I'd offer to cut their grass or something

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When my dad passed away, a lot of people gave us food, it was very appreciated because you don't want to cook or do anything, and there are usually a lot of people in and out which is also appreciated but you don't want to have to cook for them, or feel obligated too.

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I would go with the food suggestion rather than flowers, as well. My boss's husband passed away very unexpectedly in January and she said that the best thing anyone could do was feed her. If you cook, maybe do a lasagna that she can throw in the freezer, or a gift card to a popular restaurant (that they can get take out from) is also good.

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pollyjean23


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THanks everyone.  I took the suggestion that was in the obituary, which was sending a memorial to Mitey Riders at Misty Meadows program.  It's a theraputic horse riding program for individuals with disabilites. 



-- UPDATE --

The wife of the man who was killed called us on Saturday and asked if we had extra space in our trashcans for some of the extra bags of trash they accumulated from all the visitors. We went right over and transferred the bags. A woman who I think is her sister came to the door and thanked us up one side and down the other. She said, "this is the greatest thing anyone has done for us this week! Thank you so much!"

It reminded me that it's the little things that count.





-- Edited by pollyjean23 at 18:54, 2008-08-04

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