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wicked · Coach

Toxic friends

Sibeski · Dooney & Bourke

Eeps! Get her out of your life. I know it's hard but there is enough negativity surrounding us without inviting it our front door's. KWIM?

I really hope your dad can perk up, I know DM, both types, are a really rough thing to go through. (((((((((MANY good vibes))))))))))

Suasoria · Chanel

Amen! I would extend this "toxic dump" to apply to family members as well as friends.

Hermes

Suasoria wrote:

Amen! I would extend this "toxic dump" to apply to family members as well as friends.

ditto. I've dumped two "freinds" and will probably be dumping an aunt soon. I was not close with my mother's side of the family, and it's her sister - she's done nothing but ask for my mothers possessions and most recently money since my mother died. I was never close with her anyway, so I guess I won't be missing anything.

life is too short to spend with people you don't enjoy being around.

on the other side of the coin, I am instead focusing on building my relationships with my true friends. it's a much better use of my time and energy.

kenzie · Chanel

Good post! I would much rather have a few friends who I consider real friends than a bunch of toxic acquaintances that I keep around just so I have a lot of people to invite to a party.

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

Very good post! I'm dealing with my toxic roommate right now. I cannot wait until I never have to see her ever again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

joy0302 · Kate Spade

kenzie wrote:

Good post! I would much rather have a few friends who I consider real friends than a bunch of toxic acquaintances that I keep around just so I have a lot of people to invite to a party.

That is so true! Most people will be around for the fun times, but it is really hard to find friends that will be around in the bad! I have alot of people that I enjoy spending time with, but only a small group of true friends. I prefer it that way.

Wicked-it sounds like this person has alot of negativity and I don't think you should punish yourself just because you have known her for years. Also I hope your dad is doing better. My dad just found out he has diabetes and I know that it is a very scary thing to deal with.

D-that is so awful when family members show up just to see what they can get from someone! I don't blame you for dumping her! Sometimes you just can not put up with people's crap, even if it is a family member.

Bastet · Kate Spade

Ugh, your "friend" sounds dreadful! You don't need someone like that in your life. It's sad that you've known her for so long, but that shouldn't be a reason to keep her around. People change, and clearly she's changed for the worse.

wicked · Coach

Thanks all! You're the best!!

blink · Coach

Thanks for posting this. I have recently ended a toxic friendship and it's not an easy feeling. It's so complicated, but ultimately it was an important key to a process I am in to have more substantial relationships all around.

Not sure how everyone else does it, but it's not like I am sure I will never talk to this girl again, I just know she will not be more than a polite acquaintance in the future and I have NO desire to point out all of my grievances with her. I know people can change, maybe someday she will become enlightened and get the gravity of all the things she has sabotaged, but I am no longer waiting on it and that is a great relief.