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nicoley


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My boyfriend was away wed, thurs, and came back 6pm friday night... and then he has to leave again saturday morning and wont be back until monday afternoon. This is all for work.

So I planned a romantic dinner for when he arrived home on friday since i knew he would be tired after all the flying and having to leave again in the morning. And I also thought it would be nice since our 1 year anniversary is on monday and I know he will probably be taking me out to dinner.

Here is my problem. He was sitting watching tv while I finished up makiing the dinner. And when I served the dinner, he just sat there continuing to watch tv and eat. I even had candles lit, to set the mood, and he turned on the lights because he said he couldn't see.

The thing is, I know he really appreciated the meal, but i just feel like that was the only time within the last few days that we could just sit and talk and be with eachother and enjoy each others company.

But on the other hand I think, its only dinner, maybe im blowing it out of proportion. Maybe im just mad because I put alot of effort in to it, just for him to watch tv.

Needless to say, I didn't really speak to him the rest of the night, and went to bed early... although he doesn't really know that im mad.

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unfortunately, i don't think guys get romance as much and unless we hit them over the head with "hey! stop it! i cooked you a special dinner!" then they think it's business as usual.

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thanks erin.... that was sort of what i was thinking in the back of my mind

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I agree with Erin. He probably also needed a night of just sitting in front of the tv as a break from work. I know that's not what you wanted, but it might have been what he needed to relax.

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I wouldnt be worried. He probably was really tired and trying to unwind and didnt even realize what you were trying to do.

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Thanks girls... Im totally over it now. He actually called me before his flight, he didnt know I was mad at him, but he apologized before I even told him because he felt like since hes been gone so much lately that he feels like a crappy boyfriend. After that I told him that i was sort of mad at him last night, and you girls were right, he didn't really realize what was going on.

Now I can't wait for our 1 year anniversary on Monday :) For those that saw my post in general chat about a gift, I ended up getting him a salvatore ferragamo leather money clip/credit card holder.



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glad it worked out! have fun on monday!!!

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Further proof that communication is always the key. Everyone should read this thread - it shows exactly how a little thing becomes a big thing if we don't talk about it.

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This post made me crack up, Nicoley. I was reading this thinking I could have posted this (as could most coupled girls I know). Men are stupid, stupid, stupid. They totally don't get it. Looks like he caught on in the end and cared enough to make it better, which is what really counts.

Boys, eh? biggrin.gif

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Well, it's not like they can read minds, you know? If it was bothering you that he was watching tv, why didn't you just ask him to turn it off? Or, better yet, grab the remote and do it yourself? Better to do that than to hope he guesses what's wrong and fume silently.

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