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Farrah · Marc Jacobs

Baby Shower Etiquette

FashionPrincess · Hermes

I don't think you have to. Most people that didn't come to my shower did not send gifts and I've not thought poorly about it.

Starstuff · Kenneth Cole

The net for invitees was sure cast wide, huh? Ordinarily if there is that much separation between the guest of honor and one of the invitees, I wouldn't send a gift, but since this involves you BF's boss I'd just send a nice card and something small -- a rattle or bibs or a little baby hat. Just something small (and cheap) -- it might pay off in the long run.

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

Starstuff wrote:

The net for invitees was sure cast wide, huh? Ordinarily if there is that much separation between the guest of honor and one of the invitees, I wouldn't send a gift, but since this involves you BF's boss I'd just send a nice card and something small -- a rattle or bibs or a little baby hat. Just something small (and cheap) -- it might pay off in the long run.

Ha!! Actually, the girls in his office always throw showers for the other ladies in his office and wives that are preggers. It is a work type function, no family or anything. Normally they do not invite girlfriends, but seeing as how we have been together for 6 1/2 years and he has worked there for 8 years they consider me a wife by default, ha! As far as it paying off, he is in a very good position w/ his company so it wouldn't reflect negatively or fairly.

blubirde · Chanel

Imo, this is an invite to your BF, not you (no offense - just office rules, right?). Tell him to send a gift and then you don't have any problems.

Is there an office gift you/your BF can get in on?

That said, I wouldn't worry about a gift if you can't go to the shower. If you want to send something, great. If you don't, no worries. I don't think it should matter.

Kelly · Hermes

Starstuff wrote:

The net for invitees was sure cast wide, huh? Ordinarily if there is that much separation between the guest of honor and one of the invitees, I wouldn't send a gift, but since this involves you BF's boss I'd just send a nice card and something small -- a rattle or bibs or a little baby hat. Just something small (and cheap) -- it might pay off in the long run.

ITA. Even if he is in a good position with his company, if I were you I'd still pick up a little something from Target or Walmart next time I was out just to send something. I always do this... I just buy a cute little outfit on clearence and call it a day!

Alikat · Kate Spade

In your situation, I would send my regrets not being able to make the shower, but I'd probably co-buy a small present (little outfit or toy) and a card with my FH. Then I'd have my FH deliver it to his boss at work.

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

Thanks for your suggestions ladies! I borrowed hotcocoa's suggestion of board books as a gift from another thread. In doing so I ordered 4 adorable books from Amazon and used a $10 GC I had so I only paid $11 total. After the card and packaging I think that it will be a sweet little gift:).