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KaffeeKlatsch · Marc Jacobs

A rough day...

killa · Dooney & Bourke

Aw, sweetie. I am sorry you had such a rough day.

Breathe.

You can do this. You are strong. I admire you so much for how you are handling your challenges. You didn't curl up and cry, right? You made it.

I wish I could give you more advice, but keep talking. Talk to your friends, family, therapists. It will get better.

(((hugs)))

Sandy · Kate Spade

I don't have any words of wisdom to make you feel better, but I wanted to offer you big, huge, giant ((hugs)). My cousin is raising two children on her own, the youngest of which is Autistic. By observing her, I can tell you that I have much respect and admiration for you and your situation. So your son is imperfect... so what? We all are, in different ways. Keep doing what you're doing. You can do it, and it'll be okay. Hang in there.

Cricket · Gucci

Oh, I'm so sorry. I wish I could give you better advice, but all I can say is, as a mom, I know I've felt like my limits have been pushed too. You're a strong woman, but you have to allow yourself to let out some of your frustration somehow. I agree with Killa, keep talking about it, work out, do something to let some of your frustration out.

Tomorrow WILL be better. Just hang in there.

JMR · Dooney & Bourke

I want to send you huuuuge hugs. I think as moms we all have days where we want to curl up and cry and admit defeat...I think that is ok. Sometimes a good cry makes you feel so much better.

You sound like an amazing woman - and an even better mother. I admire you for raising a son on your own. It is NOT easy. I am sure the Autism makes it even more challenging - but your son is extremely lucky to have you. Hang in there - tomorrow is a new day.

AllieGurl · Marc Jacobs

I always am impressed when I see parents dealing with special needs children. I look at it this way, you must be special yourself to have such a wonderful little boy who is lucky enough to have you as his mother.

You will make it , this is a rough day, but it will pass. Parents like you are an inspiration to parents everywhere.

Collette · Chanel

What a lucky little boy he is to have a mother who loves him so much. Not in spite of his so called "flaw" but becuase of it. He knows he's loved and that's more than alot of kids can say.

small fry · Chanel

Emlie big hugs to you. Well from a soon to be single Mom I know it can stressful raising a child on your own. It takes a strong & loving person to raise a special needs child and you are just that

I admire your strength. I know I wonder sometimes if Iam doing a good job with Chris but I think all Moms do that. Iam here if you need talk.

Kelly · Hermes

You are so strong for being able to deal with things like that most of the time without curling into a ball. I can't imagine being that strong. You cannot feel guilty because every once in a while it's more than you can take. Autism is hard for any parents, but especially as a single parent I imagine it's the most stressful thing in the world. I don't think the other parents were judging you. They all have special-needs children, right? Don't even think about them. The important thing is that you love your son. And that's hard - but you'll make it through. I'm so sorry you had a bad day. I can't imagine. Tomorrow will be much better.

subwolley · Kate Spade

I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad day. Just remember it takes a very STRONG and SPECIAL person like you take care of a child with needs. Not everyone could do it. You are doing a FANTASTIC job as a mother to him. You thoughts are completely normal, and anyone in your situation I'm sure has had the same thoughts. You know that you will always be there for your son, and he's very lucky to have a great mom. Stay strong! And if you have moments of weakness, it's okay! Take care, and I hope you feel better soon!

atlgirl · Gucci

here i am thinking i'm having a bad week, but you have put things into perspective for me. i am so sorry you're having a hard time, but your love for your son comes so clearly through your post, even with all your frustration right now. you have my utmost respect and admiration for shouldering this all on your own.

my SIL was a single mom for 14 years and i know she struggled; it must be that much harder with a special needs child. i hope you are able to find small bits of down time for yourself because you need love and nurturing, too. *hugs*

travelgirl · Kate Spade

Sending big hugs your way. It is so apparent how much love you have for your child. He is so lucky to have a mom like you. Hang in there sweetie! Don't forget you always have us!

Misty · Dooney & Bourke

Your post totally made me cry. You're a great mom and its really okay to feel the way you do -- you're human! Many hugs and prayers to you.

Sibeski · Dooney & Bourke

Personally, I think it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job of raising your son. You handled the situation as any good parent would - which is doing the best you can. I could honestly feel how much you love your boy through your words. I think all parents, at times, feel inept.
Most days I worry/wonder if I'm doing the right thing. Should I be staying home with him? Should I be more of an attachment-parent? I don't know the answer, all I hope is that what I am doing is enough.
Parenting is not an easy road, maybe you could look into support groups in your area? Good luck!
http://www.kylestreehouse.org/local_support_groups.cfm

kenzie · Chanel

Aw! I'm sorry you're having a hard day, but it's so obvious that you love your son. I don't that anyone would question that. And it's normal to get frustrated and upset in your situation. It's not an easy one, but I think that you are doing a fantastic job in spite of the challenges.

NCshopper · Hermes

I hope today is better for you. It sounds to me like you're doing a great job--you have an incredible amount of responsibility to bear and it sounds like you handle it all with grace and love and poise. I hope you can find a way to get away for a bit and do something just for you. You deserve it.

halleybird · Hermes

I am so proud of you! And your son is lucky to have you. I second Sibeski's suggestion of looking into support groups. I read that 1 in every 160 children is autistic, so I am sure there are lots of other moms who feel the way you do.

hotcocoa · Kate Spade

as a mother of a son who is also on the autistic spectrum i know how utterly impossible some days can seem and how terribly isolating it can feel when no one understands. i hope that you will be able to find a school that is a better fit for him next year. the right environment will make an enormous difference. good luck and if you need to chat i'm here.

cat · Marc Jacobs

Sorry you are going through all this. Huge hugs.
It sounds like you are doing a great job of handling it.

Escrime · Kate Spade

Sorry you had a bad day. :(

I am amazed by you though. I doubt it if I could handle it as well as you do.

Hang in there and know that we are here for you!