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Teresa · Kate Spade

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bluediamond · Dooney & Bourke

RE: ugly topic

wildflower930 · BCBG

I'd have to say I blame the husband in this situation. He was the 'adult' in the situation, whereas 17 year olds aren't really known for their great decision making skills. And I just have to add that if that was my husband I'd kill him.

subwolley · Kate Spade

I'd blame the husband more than the 17-year-old girl. Obviously we don't know how the situation went down, but the girl doesn't have much life experience, whereas the husband knows damn well what he's doing. And I'd have his balls if he were my husband.

Kitty · Hermes

Husband. 17 is underage and that dude could go to jail for statutory rape.

NCshopper · Hermes

Husband, for sure. I definitely wouldn't be pleased with the girl either, but she may have felt pressured into it or something. There is no reason that a married man with a child should be sleeping with a 17 year old--there is just no excuse. If it were me in that situation, I'd divorce his ass.

-- Edited by NCshopper at 17:06, 2007-02-24

Teresa · Kate Spade

see, I agree with you girls, but all the women in the neighborhood are shunning and i mean SHUNNING this girl. I realize I may not know the whole story, but come on, the guy has gotten off like a victim in the situation! I know this girl fairly well and she is the shy, easy to persuade type, I just cant see her being the persuer in this. ugh. Sorry, this is just totally eating away at me

subwolley · Kate Spade

collegegirl5858 wrote:

see, I agree with you girls, but all the women in the neighborhood are shunning and i mean SHUNNING this girl. I realize I may not know the whole story, but come on, the guy has gotten off like a victim in the situation! I know this girl fairly well and she is the shy, easy to persuade type, I just cant see her being the persuer in this. ugh. Sorry, this is just totally eating away at me

Interesting that the women are shunning the girl. Did they sleep with the husband too? Sounds like jealousy almost. hmm.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I blame the husband. She was 17. Waaaay too young. And also not the one who promised to stay true "til death do us part." I think people shun the girl because:

1) She has less resources and fewer defendants.

2) She is better looking, and so a threat (or at least a less sympathetic character) to the nieghborhood women.

3) They want to preserve the status quo, and she's the most disposable of the three characters.

4) It's just easier. I don't know why. But every threesome I've ever seen, everyone ended up shunning the cheatee girl (even though I in some cases she didn't even know about the girlfriend) and trying to get the cheated on girl to go back to the guy.

Seeing this, I've tried to stick up for the girl wehnever I had the chance. It's a huge hassle. People get really mad when you won't jump on the bandwagon and trash her. Then you're in almost as much trouble as she is. So be careful here. Good luck.

joy0302 · Kate Spade

I would blame the husband. He is the one who signed the marriage certificate and should have upheld his commitment. That being said, I would not be rude to the girl if I were the other neighbors, but I wouldn't hire her as a babysitter. They both should have known better, but he is the only adult in the situation.

Collette · Chanel

I'd blame the husband though not 100%. 17 is nearly an adult, old enough to know better than sleeping with a married man. Short of him out and out seducing her she is adult enough to have said no.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

both

luckylily · Gucci

I definitely think a 17 year old should know better. She's old enough to know that it isn't appropriate and totally skeevy, and I don't think she's completely innocent. And honestly, I'd have a hard time feeling for her if she suddenly isn't the fitting in the neighborhood.

However, I do put the blame squarely on the husband. It's his responsibility to uphold the commitment he made to his wife.

AllieGurl · Marc Jacobs

Collette wrote:

I'd blame the husband though not 100%. 17 is nearly an adult, old enough to know better than sleeping with a married man. Short of him out and out seducing her she is adult enough to have said no.

I agree 100%.

he is a bastard, but she was obivously old enough at 17 to know how wrong that was.

carmenb513 · Coach

The husband....

btw: I'd probably would not have to reason why I shouldn't chop his penis off......

Lilykind · Hermes

I think both are at fault, but the husband definitely more so. He made a life commitment to his wife and he's supposed to be mature enough to know better.

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

AllieGurl wrote:

Collette wrote:

I'd blame the husband though not 100%. 17 is nearly an adult, old enough to know better than sleeping with a married man. Short of him out and out seducing her she is adult enough to have said no.
I agree 100%.

he is a bastard, but she was obivously old enough at 17 to know how wrong that was.

I agree with both of you. They are both at fault. When I was 17 I sure as hell knew that it is unacceptable to sleep with a married man.

Tati · Chanel

Farrah wrote:

AllieGurl wrote:

Collette wrote:

I'd blame the husband though not 100%. 17 is nearly an adult, old enough to know better than sleeping with a married man. Short of him out and out seducing her she is adult enough to have said no.
I agree 100%.

he is a bastard, but she was obivously old enough at 17 to know how wrong that was.

I agree with both of you. They are both at fault. When I was 17 I sure as hell knew that it is unacceptable to sleep with a married man.

ditto!

and is she still hanging around in the nieghborhood? does she live in there?

luckyclover · Dooney & Bourke

collegegirl5858 wrote:

see, I agree with you girls, but all the women in the neighborhood are shunning and i mean SHUNNING this girl. I realize I may not know the whole story, but come on, the guy has gotten off like a victim in the situation!

This happens a lot in our society. Society expects men to sleep around but a woman who does is a tramp. Personally I blame them both....it took both of them to do it. 17 may be underage but it's old enough to know you don't sleep with a married man. I was put into a situation like that when I was about that age and I didn't do it. I knew it wasn't right. I didn't babysit there again either.

Kelly · Hermes

They are both at fault, but the man more so. He was the one who made a promise to stay true to his wife - the girl didn't make a promise to anyone. But she still should've known better.

I definitely think she did something horrible, but not solely, and he was more at fault.