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HeatherLynn · Gucci

Etiquette Question

Eurodaisy · Dooney & Bourke

Would she otherwise know about your gift if you didn't mention it in the card? For instance, does she get a list of the names of people who contributed?

HeatherLynn · Gucci

Eurodaisy wrote:

Would she otherwise know about your gift if you didn't mention it in the card? For instance, does she get a list of the names of people who contributed?

I assume she would, but at the same time I don't want her to be like "this girl only gotme a card??"

Eurodaisy · Dooney & Bourke

I wouldn't mention your gift, though you could sort of allude to your contribution by saying, "I hope you have a wonderful honeymoon" or something like that. I see where you are coming from, but I would be more worried about her thinking that you were dwelling on the fact that you got her a gift if you mention it directly.

Plus, she shouldn't have an attitude about just getting a card, either. If you aren't going to the wedding, you're under no obligation to give a gift at all.

Cortney1982 · Chanel

I agree on just sending the card with a congratulations and have fun on the honeymoon.

Suasoria · Chanel

I have to confess in reading this post, I totally thought the etiquette question was going to be "how do I politely decline an invitation to go to the wedding of someone I haven't heard from or thought about in years?"

You're a nice person! And I agree about sending the card without reference to the gift at this point. Bring another card to the wedding to put on the gift table, and just add a note saying you're delighted to have made a contribution to their honeymoon fund (you don't have to say how much, they should know already).

HeatherLynn · Gucci

I'm actually not going to the wedding. I'm sending a card and then the honeymoon fund website (once you place your purchase) gives you a gift certificate to print out for the card. Should I put it in the card? I wasn't going to mention it in the card, but since they gave me a gift certificate to put in the card should i?

Elle · Hermes

HeatherLynn wrote:

I'm actually not going to the wedding. I'm sending a card and then the honeymoon fund website (once you place your purchase) gives you a gift certificate to print out for the card. Should I put it in the card? I wasn't going to mention it in the card, but since they gave me a gift certificate to put in the card should i?

I think that would be perfectly acceptable. I would have appreciated it as a bride - all the easier for writing the thank-you notes if the GC is right there in the card!

AllieGurl · Marc Jacobs

Elle wrote:

HeatherLynn wrote:

I'm actually not going to the wedding. I'm sending a card and then the honeymoon fund website (once you place your purchase) gives you a gift certificate to print out for the card. Should I put it in the card? I wasn't going to mention it in the card, but since they gave me a gift certificate to put in the card should i?
I think that would be perfectly acceptable. I would have appreciated it as a bride - all the easier for writing the thank-you notes if the GC is right there in the card!

Totally agree. So much easier for her when writing thank you notes, its so difficult sometimes to remember what everyone got you!

Eurodaisy · Dooney & Bourke

Ditto what Elle and AllieGurl said!

HeatherLynn · Gucci

Thanks girls! I just didn't want it to be like "she didn't get me a gift" or "way to point out that she got me one". I'm just now at the age where every single one of my friends is getting married so I'm still not clear on the etiquette for everything. I do know that i am tired of buying gifts though!