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CarrieS


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A guy on Myspace messaged me late last week, and while I almost never respond to messages from guys there (it's obvious they're just trying to hit on me without actually wanting to get to know me), I decided to respond to this one.  He was cute, so what the hell?   And he only lives 45 miles away from me...
Anyways, as we continued to message back and forth, he seemed like he was really interested in me, just based on things he was saying, like "Hope to hear from you soon!" and "You've got me intrigued....".  So, I'm also getting more intrigued by him and at some point, we exchange phone numbers and IM screennames.  We texted and IM'ed all weekend; He even tried to call me a couple of times, but I was passed out after a night of drinking, lol.
He was messaging me back on Myspace and other pretty quickly, like within the same day I'd send a message, but I sent a message yesterday and he hasn't messaged be back yet at all today and it's already 9pm.
Now, my brain is telling me that there's nothing wrong or anything, that he's just busy (he works in politics), so I really shouldn't be having an issue.
However, my natural instinct is to be paranoid that he doesn't like me anymore, etc.  I've always been like this and I can't stop feeling like this!
The only thing I do know, is that he hasn't logged on to his Myspace page today, so at least I know he wasn't there, saw my message, and then chose to ignore it.
So why the hell am I insane and how do I control it??  I'm trying to tell myself over and over that this is nothing and I'm just imagining things and I'm trying to keep myself busy so I don't think about it, but that's only working a little bit.  This happens with EVERY single guy that I get interested in.  Probably why I've just said "Screw guys" and I just don't even try to date or anything anymore....
Any ideas or thoughts?

-- Edited by CarrieS at 22:11, 2007-01-22

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Oh man. I have no answers. But I seriously feel you. 5 minutes of silence when I'm expecting a phone call, email, etc., can send me straight over the edge. It makes no sense and I have no idea how to control it. The only thing you can do is try to distract yourself, as far as I know. Because, presumably, there is no solution to the insanity problem.

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sorry no advice. But if it makes you feel any better I am also insane. I hate dating, I hate waiting for calls, waiting for messages and I am starting to hate boys. Pm me if you want to chat with someone who feels your pain.

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ah yes- i can be insane, my exbf made me like that sometimes.  Waiting for calls, etc.

just try your best to not put any expectations on it- its only been a week and it would be just as easy for you to get caught up as it would be for him.  So don't sweat it!  Que sera, sera. 



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I have a tendency to be like this as well. Just KEEP BUSY. Hang out with friends, watch a movie, don't let yourself think about it. And when you do, you have to go into the "I'm so hot, if he doesnt message back its his loss" mode. He's probably just having a busy day, its not you!

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 maybe he's trying not to seem so eager because he's SO in love with you

 

I'm not any help at all, because I freak out if something small like this happens to me, too. Just wanted to say I feel your pain. I almost broke up with my last BF over the fact that he wouldn't get in touch with me within a timely manner (seriously... once we were trying to plan a trip with a mutual friend, and my BF wouldn't answer his phone for a week. Finally I went to his house and just about knocked down the door, I was so angry. And everything was fine, we'd been together a while and stayed together for a long time after that. He just didn't bother using the phone when he got busy!)



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CarrieS


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ttara123:  Haha, let's hope!

So, small update.  He had read my Myspace message like the day before, and yet hadn't responded, making me feel disappointed.  Very silly, since I haven't even met the guy in person!

 But, I couldn't resist the urge to text him, so I did.  I just made a neutral text, nothing bitchy or depressing, or about him not responding to Myspace.  He answered right back, in the same tone of voice that he's been using with me all weekend, meaning nothing is wrong.

 He DID ask me when I wanted to hang out this weekend (what the Myspace message I sent him was about), all on his own, without me even bringing it up.  So I find that to be a good sign.

 Bottom line:  I probably was freaking out for no reason, as usual.  Although I'm not sure he would've tried to text/message me if I hadn't done it first.

Hopefully, we'll be hanging out this weekend though!

And I can practically guarantee that I'll freak out again about something this stupid, since that's seems to be how I work.  And thank you ladies for making me feel better by not being the only want to get so paranoid about silly things like this!



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Looks like I'm a little late to this, but I just wanted to say -- you are so not alone! I do this all the time, and I hate it, because I'm usually such a rational person. But when it comes to waiting on a boy, I turn into neurotic girl.

Anyway, sounds like the situation worked itself out, so good luck this weekend :) and keep us updated!

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jacks435 wrote:

Looks like I'm a little late to this, but I just wanted to say -- you are so not alone! I do this all the time, and I hate it, because I'm usually such a rational person. But when it comes to waiting on a boy, I turn into neurotic girl.

Anyway, sounds like the situation worked itself out, so good luck this weekend :) and keep us updated!

 



Thank you! I hate being this neurotic over a GUY, especially one I've only talked to online! I hope that I do get to hang out with him this Friday, but we'll see.....I'll post an update this weekend

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I know exactly how you feel!! I am also insane! I can't handle it when someone is supposed to call me(esp. a guy) and doesn't right on time, it rives me crazyand thoughts run through my brain, like everyone else has said, just try to keep busy and ignore it!! I know it's hard though!

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I'm old, so this strikes me as such an odd way of dating/mating that I think none of the usual rules apply (who calls who and after what interval of time). My gawd, someone's ISP could be down or phone turned off for hours...I hate to think that this kind of thing is make-or-break in a genuine relationship, or at least one that's potentially genuine.

It's all new territory and you will be among the pioneers writing the "new rules" for these encounters as they happen to you. You said yourself that you don't normally respond to these solicitations, so forget what you thought you knew as normal and don't let the absence of normal seem like crazy.

Enjoy the ups and don't sweat the downs!

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